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The problem with this kind of situation is that it can be so degrading (basically begging for sex) and also murder on your self-esteem. Imagine how she'd feel if it was the other way round. Taking someone for granted goes both ways, but you'd never know that because the impression the media always gives is of desperate housewives and career obsessed husbands. It simply isn't true.
I guess the best thing is not to take it personally and, while it may be tempting, do not cheat. Fark I was so sorely tempted at times but so glad I didn't. Just have a wank and then watch some rugby.
One more thing, while it's important for you yourself to be fit and healthy and look good, don't expect that to have any difference on her. I went nuts with a PT, diet, the works. Was looking like a farking Spartan warrior. Doesn't do shit. It isn't you, it's her and she has to figure that shit out. Hope that happens sooner rather than later. Ain't nowt queerer than womenfolk.
@rancid-schnitzel said in Back for more!:
One more thing, while it's important for you yourself to be fit and healthy and look good, don't expect that to have any difference on her. I went nuts with a PT, diet, the works. Was looking like a farking Spartan warrior. Doesn't do shit. It isn't you, it's her and she has to figure that shit out. Hope that happens sooner rather than later. Ain't nowt queerer than womenfolk.
Yeah I reckon you're on the money. She has said herself that if it's good for me to feel fitter, I should go for it, but it doesn't really bother her (as long as I don't get obsessed over it).
That said, last time I lost the weight, we seemed to be having sex more often. She put that down to my "confidence" but at least some of it has to be attributed to the buffness at a subconscious level. At least the "not getting knocked back" part. Maybe?
At this point, the update is fairly good. Maybe even some of the message has gotten through - sent me a lovely text message this arvo (and I thanked her verbally when she got home to ensure she understands I appreciate it) and is making cups of tea for me etc. Ice definitely thawed.
She is also opening up a bit on the humorous front wrt general attitude toward physical stuff E.g. I asked the kids who wanted to see the new Aquaman trailer and the wife is the first one to say "yep!!" from the kitchen.
Fucking Jason Momoa. Should have stayed dead you Dothraki prick
Anyway this has been a good side discussion and I'm happy to continue it with anyone who wants to, either here or via PM.
Next post will be Fitness related!
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I slept poorly from about 0430 today, so didn't end up going for my scheduled run. Fucking miserable weather anyway.
Thought about doing it when I got home, as it seemed to clear, then the rain swept in again. Go home, Sydney Spring weather - you drunk!
So tonight I thought I'd test out my maximums for chinups, taking suitable breaks in between each set to recover, to see how the regular work was suiting me. Pretty well as it turns out:
5 supinated
4 neutral grip
3 pronatedAll were full hang, and max reps in a single set based on good form. Fatigue probably played a part in each set, as well as the shoulder injury, but I'm happy with that as I can feel it right through the core.
EDIT: And some core work and stretching exercises from Pilates, because why the fuck not?
Hoping to get out for a run tomorrow morning, but "scattered showers clearing" is the forecast so it might have to be at work.
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mate we all go through that shit.
I'm the same, it is regular but is very little outside it that I dont initiate...always shit going on in her head/life; her job sucks, her boss does her head in, her dad is one of the more negative people and is gettign worse as he ages (has recently had a bout of cancer to top it off) and always brings her down after an hour on the phone (given he lives in UK)
I tell her to chuck the job in, we'll deal with it, but she says it is convenient for her (which it is as it is school hours and she has use of a vehicle to and from work)
I've been talking about chucking her it in and buying a business for her to run for a while, but she's a creature of habit and not keen, but it's also finding the right one thats the issue in a small place like Whangarei.
@taniwharugby said in Back for more!:
mate we all go through that shit.
I'm the same, it is regular but is very little outside it that I dont initiate...always shit going on in her head/life; her job sucks, her boss does her head in, her dad is one of the more negative people and is gettign worse as he ages (has recently had a bout of cancer to top it off) and always brings her down after an hour on the phone (given he lives in UK)
I tell her to chuck the job in, we'll deal with it, but she says it is convenient for her (which it is as it is school hours and she has use of a vehicle to and from work)
I've been talking about chucking her it in and buying a business for her to run for a while, but she's a creature of habit and not keen, but it's also finding the right one thats the issue in a small place like Whangarei.
Holy shit that all sounds so familiar. Perhaps even too familiar, apart from the whangarei bit.
Wife and I used to be super active, even when we had 3 young kids (still young but now ranging 6 through 11). Seems less frequent of late but I've always put it down to her having a lot going on and I get by. After a night out with a bit of booze involved though, holy shit is she up for it. Maybe she just forgets about everything thats going on in her head at times like that, I dunno. Women and men are indeed wired so differently.
Anyway I think the point is that in fact a lot of what each of us is going through is similar and probably a lot more common that we think.
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@taniwharugby said in Back for more!:
mate we all go through that shit.
I'm the same, it is regular but is very little outside it that I dont initiate...always shit going on in her head/life; her job sucks, her boss does her head in, her dad is one of the more negative people and is gettign worse as he ages (has recently had a bout of cancer to top it off) and always brings her down after an hour on the phone (given he lives in UK)
I tell her to chuck the job in, we'll deal with it, but she says it is convenient for her (which it is as it is school hours and she has use of a vehicle to and from work)
I've been talking about chucking her it in and buying a business for her to run for a while, but she's a creature of habit and not keen, but it's also finding the right one thats the issue in a small place like Whangarei.
Holy shit that all sounds so familiar. Perhaps even too familiar, apart from the whangarei bit.
Wife and I used to be super active, even when we had 3 young kids (still young but now ranging 6 through 11). Seems less frequent of late but I've always put it down to her having a lot going on and I get by. After a night out with a bit of booze involved though, holy shit is she up for it. Maybe she just forgets about everything thats going on in her head at times like that, I dunno. Women and men are indeed wired so differently.
Anyway I think the point is that in fact a lot of what each of us is going through is similar and probably a lot more common that we think.
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After a night out with a bit of booze involved though, holy shit is she up for it. Maybe she just forgets about everything thats going on in her head at times like that, I dunno.
Bingo. It's a combination (I think) of alcohol relaxing a few inhibitions, and a night out allowing them to have social interaction on their terms, rather than e.g. work where they have to fit into certain norms.
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@jk said in Back for more!:
After a night out with a bit of booze involved though, holy shit is she up for it. Maybe she just forgets about everything thats going on in her head at times like that, I dunno.
Bingo. It's a combination (I think) of alcohol relaxing a few inhibitions, and a night out allowing them to have social interaction on their terms, rather than e.g. work where they have to fit into certain norms.
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I slept poorly from about 0430 today, so didn't end up going for my scheduled run. Fucking miserable weather anyway.
Thought about doing it when I got home, as it seemed to clear, then the rain swept in again. Go home, Sydney Spring weather - you drunk!
So tonight I thought I'd test out my maximums for chinups, taking suitable breaks in between each set to recover, to see how the regular work was suiting me. Pretty well as it turns out:
5 supinated
4 neutral grip
3 pronatedAll were full hang, and max reps in a single set based on good form. Fatigue probably played a part in each set, as well as the shoulder injury, but I'm happy with that as I can feel it right through the core.
EDIT: And some core work and stretching exercises from Pilates, because why the fuck not?
Hoping to get out for a run tomorrow morning, but "scattered showers clearing" is the forecast so it might have to be at work.
@nta said in Back for more!:
Hoping to get out for a run tomorrow morning, but "scattered showers clearing" is the forecast so it might have to be at work.
Nope. Still raining.
So instead of getting around the local streets in a sweat, Mrs TA and I got around each other in a sweat.
It has been one of the weirder weeks in recent memory.
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@nta haha my Missus is opposite, alcohol puts her to sleep and she is a lightweight! If I can keep her awake then things are groovy
@taniwharugby said in Back for more!:
@nta haha my Missus is opposite, alcohol puts her to sleep and she is a lightweight! If I can keep her awake then things are groovy
Exactly the same for me. She just wanted to get home and sleep.
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@taniwharugby said in Back for more!:
@nta haha my Missus is opposite, alcohol puts her to sleep and she is a lightweight! If I can keep her awake then things are groovy
Exactly the same for me. She just wanted to get home and sleep.
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@taniwharugby said in Back for more!:
@nta haha my Missus is opposite, alcohol puts her to sleep and she is a lightweight! If I can keep her awake then things are groovy
Exactly the same for me. She just wanted to get home and sleep.
So did the majority of my first dates. That's roofies for you!
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@nta born for the front row. My man
@paekakboyz would barely have been able to run out on the field!
Fuck I could drink, tho.
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Very relaxed weekend on the eating front, particularly Sunday when we went to see friends and the cake we picked up was second-slice worthy.
So last night I did to-fail sets of chinups (5), neutral grip (3), and pullups (3). 5 sets of 10 pushups then some Pilates stretching and core.
I now fit back into one of my favourite t shirts which is good, as well as a couple of other garments.
On the relationship front it was... Well it was fairly amazing, actually. Maybe the message got through, despite the drama, as the levels of affection have definitely increased. We'll see how it survives the chocolate wheel that is the menstrual cycle
as well as work and other family shit.Got up for a run this morning and literally as I was tying my shoes on the front step, it started to rain. Been wet as an otter's pocket the last week in Sydney. Abandoned that shit. Might do other body weight tonight like squats n lunges n shit
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hold on @NTA what is the missus grabbing in that pic!!
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hold on @NTA what is the missus grabbing in that pic!!
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hold on @NTA what is the missus grabbing in that pic!!
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hold on @NTA what is the missus grabbing in that pic!!
His gunt by the looks of things
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when it rains it pours!!
ps I ain't talking about the rain! :oncoming_fist:
@paekakboyz said in Back for more!:
when it rains it pours!!
ps I ain't talking about the rain! :oncoming_fist:
Soon @NTA will be bitching about being tired from all the sex and his clingy missus!
