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I mean it shouldn't be an issue but what are ya gonna do. Oh, and for god's sake dont go buying flowers or anything. What we have here is a comms breakdown not a total mea culpa. Hang in there bro!
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@paekakboyz said in Back for more!:
I mean it shouldn't be an issue but what are ya gonna do. Oh, and for god's sake dont go buying flowers or anything. What we have here is a comms breakdown not a total mea culpa. Hang in there bro!
i dunno, the whole "i am going to pilates" which was a lie at the time it was said is a bit of a brainfade.
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@mariner4life @Paekakboyz not seeking moral high ground; want to understand what the issue is from her POV so I can address it directly.
Yeah the plan to go have coffee instead of the called-off Pilates could have been something communicated up front, but that bird has flown, and we ended up at Pilates anyway. No harm, no foul on this side of things.
I'm sure she won't see the outcome the way I do, and that's her right. The fact is she didn't know any different on this statement:
the whole "i am going to pilates" which was a lie at the time"
I've done a shitload of work from my end making this a good marriage, particularly the communication, during this difficult time. I'm getting tired of being the one who initiates pretty much everything, even before her Mum's dementia started putting us through the wringer.
So if she wants to have the shits, come and tell me. Otherwise just stew away and come back to it in a couple of days.
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not judging, just offering a possible reason for the cold front moving across western sydney.
your actions, and your last statement, seem to paint a bit of a picture about where you are mentally though. Again, no judgement, i'm not living your situation.
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Def not ganging up @NTA but she's seeing a mountain and you appear to be seeing a molehill on the landscape you've worked bloody hard at. Whatever sits behind it she's feeling hurt-miffed etc and probably 'expecting you to 'know what you've done'. Going into seige mode prob isnt the fastest way to calm waters imo.
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@jegga nowhere near as hot as my wife in physical or mental terms, IMHO. She's a good laugh and we have jokes about the old days and the fact she fucked some of my mates but not me etc
Shares similar frustrations about her marriage in that she's the one initiating sex more than her other half.
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@nta said in Back for more!:
@jegga nowhere near as hot as my wife in physical or mental terms, IMHO. She's a good laugh and we have jokes about the old days and the fact she fucked some of my mates but not me etc
Shares similar frustrations about her marriage in that she's the one initiating sex more than her other half.
oh fuck, i know exactly where this is going!!
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@mariner4life easy tiger. I've been cheated on and would never do it to someone else, particularly a partner of 20 years.
The friend has had an affair earlier in her marriage and realises it is too damaging to sustain.
We know where the boundaries are and we stay well back from them.
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@nta said in Back for more!:
@mariner4life easy tiger. I've been cheated on and would never do it to someone else, particularly a partner of 20 years.
The friend has had an affair earlier in her marriage and realises it is too damaging to sustain.
We know where the boundaries are and we stay well back from them.
well, if we are going to be serious about this serious issue...
optics are huge, sometimes even bigger than reality
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@nta said in Back for more!:
@jegga nowhere near as hot as my wife in physical or mental terms, IMHO. She's a good laugh and we have jokes about the old days and the fact she fucked some of my mates but not me etc
Shares similar frustrations about her marriage in that she's the one initiating sex more than her other half.
Maaaaaaate
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did... did i just stumble on to an Incel forum by accident?
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@mariner4life said in Back for more!:
did... did i just stumble on to an Incel forum by accident?
Can you be in a relationship and be an incel ?....... asking for... a friend.
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This is all genuinely fascinating. I've simmered down a bit and will continue to ponder these lines of thinking.
(And @Rocky-Rockbottom it is actually classed as a dwarf planet)
In any case, I got home and she was finishing some work on her laptop, and the cold spell had lessened significantly. Mainly she wanted to show me some letter her office got from a solicitor which was a fucking funny read.
So either she's considered her stance and decided it isn't worth mulling over any longer.
More likely, shit is about to hit the fan in new and heretofore unseen ways.
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Could be worse, you could be Dayne Zorko who is so fucked now his missus has gone through his phone, and found all the filthy messages to his side-chick, and loaded them to instagram...
2nd AFL player in two weeks. Change your passcodes you fucking idiots
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@nta said in Back for more!:
This is all genuinely fascinating. I've simmered down a bit and will continue to ponder these lines of thinking.
(And @Rocky-Rockbottom it is actually classed as a dwarf planet)
In any case, I got home and she was finishing some work on her laptop, and the cold spell had lessened significantly. Mainly she wanted to show me some letter her office got from a solicitor which was a fucking funny read.
So either she's considered her stance and decided it isn't worth mulling over any longer.
More likely, shit is about to hit the fan in new and heretofore unseen ways.
Yeah nah, there's a good chance she's filed it away to add to use as extra ammunition if you fuck up on a similar or worse scale in the next month or so. If you're having an argument and she sense that you might be getting the upper hand or she might be wrong the next thing you know you'll be defending yourself on two fronts.
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@jegga said in Back for more!:
Yeah nah, there's a good chance she's filed it away to add to use as extra ammunition if you fuck up on a similar or worse scale in the next
monthforever or so.Fixed.
And I never get the upper hand in the arguments
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@mariner4life said in Back for more!:
Could be worse, you could be Dayne Zorko who is so fucked now his missus has gone through his phone, and found all the filthy messages to his side-chick, and loaded them to instagram...
2nd AFL player in two weeks. Change your passcodes you fucking idiots
Fingerprint!
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@nta said in Back for more!:
@jegga said in Back for more!:
Yeah nah, there's a good chance she's filed it away to add to use as extra ammunition if you fuck up on a similar or worse scale in the next
monthforever or so.Fixed.
And I never get the upper hand in the arguments
Ah the old " I know I'm right but if I push it I'll jeopardise my slim chances of having sex" gambit.
