Parenting
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Again, I'm not a parent so just pick up what I see from Family Guy/American Dad...….
My wife and I love that show - so neatly reflects the era (or at least our experiences).
I don't have kids, but I am the eldest so I got to witness my parents becoming more laissez faire. Speaking to friends about raising kids and starting strict turning to "who gives a fuck, nothing works, they don't listen" I'm convinced that kids go through rebellious stages. Ideally you want that earlier in life as the multiplier of teenager/ young adult years makes bad decisions have the propensity for being much worse.
What else can you do other than set expectations, enforce the boundaries and seek consistency in punishment? Then hope they don't turn into fuckups.
Take comfort that every parent I know who is honest makes the same complaints. No doubt ours did too and we're ok.
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Nobody's perfect, cut yourself some slack. It's not easy.
We have had similar issues to what you describe, although my kids are younger. Boredom seems to be the best weapon.
Take away internet/allowance/lifts to friends/sport/whatever and have them earn stuff back.
Reward good behaviour, starve bad. Read a book on parenting toddlers once saying that kids crave any attention, good or bad. So if you have to feed the good attention, and try not to react as much to the bad. Was for toddlers, but my minimal experience with teenagers they seem to be fucking the same.
My kids have discovered divide and conquor so have to triple check I'm not condradicting the wife.
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@Virgil haha my almost 15 yr old would hate that!
He has been spending alot of time in there talking to a girl on the phone this last couple of weeks, he doesnt think I know...kids thnk parents are dumb
I remember those days, except with the 5m phone cable attached to the wall!
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@mariner4life
What about a lock to effectively lock the cavity slider open? -
@mariner4life
What about a lock to effectively lock the cavity slider open?my kids aren't real private, so i doubt they would care
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@mariner4life said in Parenting:
Take their bedroom door off it’s hinges,
I’m saving that punishment for when they get a bit older. Kids love their privacy.it's really hard to take cavity sliders out...
Not if you know what your doing. I’ve done it many times, yes is a prick in a finished house but not ia possible if your willing to cut away the architrave, risk damaging the paint and face the lonely hood of never getting it back inside again...
I manage a door hanging business btw, happy to pop over at your expense to help out...
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@mariner4life said in Parenting:
@mariner4life
What about a lock to effectively lock the cavity slider open?my kids aren't real private, so i doubt they would care
..they will when they get older... I mean what do teenage boys like to get up to on their own...
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@mariner4life said in Parenting:
@mariner4life
What about a lock to effectively lock the cavity slider open?my kids aren't real private, so i doubt they would care
..they will when they get older... I mean what do teenage boys like to get to go on their own...
gawd, i can't even think like that. he's in primary school!!
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@mariner4life said in Parenting:
Take their bedroom door off it’s hinges,
I’m saving that punishment for when they get a bit older. Kids love their privacy.it's really hard to take cavity sliders out...
Not if you know what your doing. I’ve done it many times, yes is a prick in a finished house but not ia possible if your willing to cut away the architrave, risk damaging the paint and face the lonely hood of never getting it back inside again...
I manage a door hanging business btw, happy to pop over at your expense to help out...
I've got one that's dropped, and i am too scared to try and fix it.
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@mariner4life said in Parenting:
@mariner4life said in Parenting:
@mariner4life
What about a lock to effectively lock the cavity slider open?my kids aren't real private, so i doubt they would care
..they will when they get older... I mean what do teenage boys like to get to go on their own...
gawd, i can't even think like that. he's in primary school!!
Gonna happen, we all know that... wait till the room starts to smell funny and there’s crusty old washing stashed under the bed and they ask you how to spell pornhub...
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@mariner4life said in Parenting:
@mariner4life said in Parenting:
Take their bedroom door off it’s hinges,
I’m saving that punishment for when they get a bit older. Kids love their privacy.it's really hard to take cavity sliders out...
Not if you know what your doing. I’ve done it many times, yes is a prick in a finished house but not ia possible if your willing to cut away the architrave, risk damaging the paint and face the lonely hood of never getting it back inside again...
I manage a door hanging business btw, happy to pop over at your expense to help out...
I've got one that's dropped, and i am too scared to try and fix it.
Sounds like the carriage has come away from the mounting plate ( metal thingy screwed to the door (long flat thing) )
You will need to pull it out, but seeing as your place is brand new should be under warranty.. they will just flog your off.. wait till this covid thing dies down and I’ll pop over... -
@mariner4life funnily enough nor are my kids, but it's something they have no control over once it's gone
One thing I have learnt is that everyone's 1 minute advice is to be used only as you see fit, what works for 1 family or child might not work for others.
My mates are putting in pools so as their kids get older they hope it will mean more of their friends spending time at their house - I'm stoked as our kids are similar ages and we'll quite happily send them to theirs. However I do believe a pool like anything else will lose its appeal - but at least there is a plan
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@mariner4life funnily enough nor are my kids, but it's something they have no control over once it's gone
One thing I have learnt is that everyone's 1 minute advice is to be used only as you see fit, what works for 1 family or child might not work for others.
My mates are putting in pools so as their kids get older they hope it will mean more of their friends spending time at their house - I'm stoked as our kids are similar ages and we'll quite happily send them to theirs. However I do believe a pool like anything else will lose its appeal - but at least there is a plan
mine have always had one, and they start to take it for granted. i reckon i use it more than they do.
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what works for 1 family or child might not work for others.
yep, my older one is easier to manage and accepting of punishment and less likely to do something knowing the consequences, whereas the 11 (almost 12) year old, is stubborn AF and sometimes will hand over her phone expecting us to take it when she has been an arse!
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by christ they were well behaved and helpful last night after they were left in no doubt how i felt about their recent behaviour.
See how long that lasts
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@mariner4life well an hours up so I expect the shitstorm has started again?
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@mariner4life said in Parenting:
@mariner4life funnily enough nor are my kids, but it's something they have no control over once it's gone
One thing I have learnt is that everyone's 1 minute advice is to be used only as you see fit, what works for 1 family or child might not work for others.
My mates are putting in pools so as their kids get older they hope it will mean more of their friends spending time at their house - I'm stoked as our kids are similar ages and we'll quite happily send them to theirs. However I do believe a pool like anything else will lose its appeal - but at least there is a plan
mine have always had one, and they start to take it for granted. i reckon i use it more than they do.
My father got sick of us not maintaining the pool. Threatened that if we didn't he'd remove it. I went camping for a week, came back to find extra space in the backyard.
