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@barbarian said in Parenting:
@No-Quarter said in Parenting:
@mariner4life said in Parenting:
@No-Quarter said in Parenting:
It's that he's just wayyyy too fucking over cautious. About everything, to the point that it has stopped him from doing fun things - he's still not that confident on his bike and doesn't really enjoy it because "what if I fall off Dad???".
that's my youngest. He's very anxious. It's why he is very slow to start new things. All he can think about is what can go wrong. He absolutely gets that from his mother. I just can't understand it, it's not how i am wired, and my eldest doesn't get it either. And i am sure i react incorrectly.
For instance, up at the lake on the weekend. Kids doing biscuit rides behind the boat. Eldest jumps in, and he's actively trying to throw himself around, despite never having done it before. The youngest? got in, but instantly said he didn't want to do it. I pretty much didn't give him a choice, and he fucking hated it, got off after one lap, and didn't get back in. Apparently just seeing it's safe wasn't enough
Then he told his mother that "dad made me do something i didn't want to do!" oops
It's hard to know what to do. I took the approach of just forcing him to do shit, with the view that once he actually did it he'd realise how fun it was. That has backfired many times.
When he was four we had an incident at Movie World on the Gold Coast. I made him go on the log ride with me as there didn't appear to be any age or height requirements. I figured I'd get him all geared up for the final drop during the initial stages where you float around and he'd end up having a blast.
Little did I know that on this particular log ride half way through it puts you into a dark room, turns you backwards, and shoots you down a significant drop at speed. He was fucking petrified after that (understandably so it was pretty intense), and then didn't trust me when trying to get him to do anything else.
Wow I had a real flashback reading this. I went to Movie World about 20 years ago, and really have no memories of it.
But reading the post I now distinctly remember going on that log ride, and the backwards drop being terrifying. So I totally understand your sons feelings on that one!
Wait, I've been to Movie World lots - probably used to go at least every second year between 2001 and 2014 when visiting my Mum, then for two years I'd go quite often when up on the GC campus (at the film studio so had free access), and yet I have no recollection of the log ride going backwards at the end.
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@raznomore haaa exactly! I can only remember one, but I'm sure there were more. One of those kinda guys that was about 5'6", wore a black bomber jacket with the name of his tae kwan do school on the back and worked as a floor salesman at an appliance store.
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@raznomore haaa exactly! I can only remember one, but I'm sure there were more. One of those kinda guys that was about 5'6", wore a black bomber jacket with the name of his tae kwan do school on the back and worked as a floor salesman at an appliance store.
you fucking made that up!!!
That's an 80s movie douchebag cliche!
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@mariner4life I know right. Oh and ginger, with almost like a flat top. And Lennon sunnies.
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@barbarian said in Parenting:
@No-Quarter said in Parenting:
@mariner4life said in Parenting:
@No-Quarter said in Parenting:
It's that he's just wayyyy too fucking over cautious. About everything, to the point that it has stopped him from doing fun things - he's still not that confident on his bike and doesn't really enjoy it because "what if I fall off Dad???".
that's my youngest. He's very anxious. It's why he is very slow to start new things. All he can think about is what can go wrong. He absolutely gets that from his mother. I just can't understand it, it's not how i am wired, and my eldest doesn't get it either. And i am sure i react incorrectly.
For instance, up at the lake on the weekend. Kids doing biscuit rides behind the boat. Eldest jumps in, and he's actively trying to throw himself around, despite never having done it before. The youngest? got in, but instantly said he didn't want to do it. I pretty much didn't give him a choice, and he fucking hated it, got off after one lap, and didn't get back in. Apparently just seeing it's safe wasn't enough
Then he told his mother that "dad made me do something i didn't want to do!" oops
It's hard to know what to do. I took the approach of just forcing him to do shit, with the view that once he actually did it he'd realise how fun it was. That has backfired many times.
When he was four we had an incident at Movie World on the Gold Coast. I made him go on the log ride with me as there didn't appear to be any age or height requirements. I figured I'd get him all geared up for the final drop during the initial stages where you float around and he'd end up having a blast.
Little did I know that on this particular log ride half way through it puts you into a dark room, turns you backwards, and shoots you down a significant drop at speed. He was fucking petrified after that (understandably so it was pretty intense), and then didn't trust me when trying to get him to do anything else.
Wow I had a real flashback reading this. I went to Movie World about 20 years ago, and really have no memories of it.
But reading the post I now distinctly remember going on that log ride, and the backwards drop being terrifying. So I totally understand your sons feelings on that one!
Wait, I've been to Movie World lots - probably used to go at least every second year between 2001 and 2014 when visiting my Mum, then for two years I'd go quite often when up on the GC campus (at the film studio so had free access), and yet I have no recollection of the log ride going backwards at the end.
It's not the final drop, it's halfway through the ride. And like @barbarian your brain has probably suppressed that traumatic experience.
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@No-Quarter said in Parenting:
@barbarian said in Parenting:
@No-Quarter said in Parenting:
@mariner4life said in Parenting:
@No-Quarter said in Parenting:
It's that he's just wayyyy too fucking over cautious. About everything, to the point that it has stopped him from doing fun things - he's still not that confident on his bike and doesn't really enjoy it because "what if I fall off Dad???".
that's my youngest. He's very anxious. It's why he is very slow to start new things. All he can think about is what can go wrong. He absolutely gets that from his mother. I just can't understand it, it's not how i am wired, and my eldest doesn't get it either. And i am sure i react incorrectly.
For instance, up at the lake on the weekend. Kids doing biscuit rides behind the boat. Eldest jumps in, and he's actively trying to throw himself around, despite never having done it before. The youngest? got in, but instantly said he didn't want to do it. I pretty much didn't give him a choice, and he fucking hated it, got off after one lap, and didn't get back in. Apparently just seeing it's safe wasn't enough
Then he told his mother that "dad made me do something i didn't want to do!" oops
It's hard to know what to do. I took the approach of just forcing him to do shit, with the view that once he actually did it he'd realise how fun it was. That has backfired many times.
When he was four we had an incident at Movie World on the Gold Coast. I made him go on the log ride with me as there didn't appear to be any age or height requirements. I figured I'd get him all geared up for the final drop during the initial stages where you float around and he'd end up having a blast.
Little did I know that on this particular log ride half way through it puts you into a dark room, turns you backwards, and shoots you down a significant drop at speed. He was fucking petrified after that (understandably so it was pretty intense), and then didn't trust me when trying to get him to do anything else.
Wow I had a real flashback reading this. I went to Movie World about 20 years ago, and really have no memories of it.
But reading the post I now distinctly remember going on that log ride, and the backwards drop being terrifying. So I totally understand your sons feelings on that one!
Wait, I've been to Movie World lots - probably used to go at least every second year between 2001 and 2014 when visiting my Mum, then for two years I'd go quite often when up on the GC campus (at the film studio so had free access), and yet I have no recollection of the log ride going backwards at the end.
It's not the final drop, it's halfway through the ride. And like @barbarian your brain has probably suppressed that traumatic experience.
Ah right. I love that stuff. I have a mate who is scared of roller coasters - we went on the Scooby Doo ride thinking it was a ghost train. I looked back as we were being raised up, and saw the roller coaster - I didn't tell him - before we got sent flying backwards. Men shouldn't scream like that.
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@NTA after watching 7 boys from the team I have coached for 8 years play under another coach, I felt a bit for my boy as i think this would have a huge opportunity to get a bit of confidence in his game now that he is a bit more savvy and bigger...and for me, despite thinking it'd he great not coaching, I felt a pang of disappointment watching the boys carve today...my boy then spent an hour telling me about wanting to do more exrecise and game less...first opportunity to do something, wanted to sit on his phone instead...
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I guess that all of you guys are going to teach your kids to drive?
See the "first cars" thread for some tips.
In the midst of it
Just remember to shout and belittle a lot. It helps with the kids self confidence as well as the driving skills.
The family friend who taught me all those years ago ( one lesson with my Dad didn’t help Our relationship so we canned that quickly ) passed away last year and turns out he had a massive list of former pupils many of whom were at the funeral sharing funny stories. His own son told how he put his hands over his ( the sons ) eyes to ‘simulate’ what it would be like if a bit of tarpaulin blew onto the windscreen ! Thankfully he never did that with me.
My oldest son is already pestering me for lessons. As long as he’s happy in an auto then I’ll think about it
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My oldest son is already pestering me for lessons. As long as he’s happy in an auto then I’ll think about it
So you're going to teach him to steer, not drive then?
Just kidding, far easier to learn in an auto. They actually work these days too. Maybe not quite so much of the shouting and anger, but you can do it if you try. You might even talk to your son afterwards.
"Don't ride the clutch!!!" was another favourite shout that I had forgotten. Probably blanked that one out really.
Hill starts without the anxiety about the car behind also a bonus, but you are taking a lot of the "fun" out of these lessons in an auto.
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My oldest son is already pestering me for lessons. As long as he’s happy in an auto then I’ll think about it
So you're going to teach him to steer, not drive then?
Just kidding, far easier to learn in an auto. They actually work these days too. Maybe not quite so much of the shouting and anger, but you can do it if you try. You might even talk to your son afterwards.
"Don't ride the clutch!!!" was another favourite shout that I had forgotten. Probably blanked that one out really.
Hill starts without the anxiety about the car behind also a bonus, but you are taking a lot of the "fun" out of these lessons in an auto.
I still have nightmares about hill starts and obviously being in Welly there’s no shortage of options for these.
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My oldest son is already pestering me for lessons. As long as he’s happy in an auto then I’ll think about it
So you're going to teach him to steer, not drive then?
Just kidding, far easier to learn in an auto. They actually work these days too. Maybe not quite so much of the shouting and anger, but you can do it if you try. You might even talk to your son afterwards.
"Don't ride the clutch!!!" was another favourite shout that I had forgotten. Probably blanked that one out really.
Hill starts without the anxiety about the car behind also a bonus, but you are taking a lot of the "fun" out of these lessons in an auto.
I still have nightmares about hill starts and obviously being in Welly there’s no shortage of options for these.
The options for me were:
Roll back and hit the car behind - and get shouted at.
Ride the clutch - and get shouted at,
Stall - and get shouted at.Get it right (occasionally) - and get shouted at for something else.
My wife thought it might be a good idea if I taught her to fly. Then she wanted me to teach her to drive a manual again...
We are still together.
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My oldest son is already pestering me for lessons. As long as he’s happy in an auto then I’ll think about it
So you're going to teach him to steer, not drive then?
Just kidding, far easier to learn in an auto. They actually work these days too. Maybe not quite so much of the shouting and anger, but you can do it if you try. You might even talk to your son afterwards.
"Don't ride the clutch!!!" was another favourite shout that I had forgotten. Probably blanked that one out really.
Hill starts without the anxiety about the car behind also a bonus, but you are taking a lot of the "fun" out of these lessons in an auto.
I still have nightmares about hill starts and obviously being in Welly there’s no shortage of options for these.
The options for me were:
Roll back and hit the car behind - and get shouted at.
Ride the clutch - and get shouted at,
Stall - and get shouted at.Get it right (occasionally) - and get shouted at for something else.
My wife thought it might be a good idea if I taught her to fly. Then she wanted me to teach her to drive a manual again...
We are still together.
Fuck me days this post is hilarious Snowy.
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I learnt to drive from a guy in my class at school (simpler times!). I sat the test in his Corolla Station Wagon, which was an awesome little car. I could parallel park it because I could see exactly where the car ended. When I came out to the car with the traffic cop (back then cops gave you your driving test) my mate had graciously pulled the choke - something I'de never even noticed let alone used before - all the way out so when I started up the little sewing machine engine revved like a bastard while I panicked and tried to work out what was going wrong. Old mate was standing on the footpath pissing himself. The cop knew exactly what was going on and shook his head and said "Mates, eh?". I just sat there with my crimson face while the cop reached over and pushed the choke back in. I passed, but to be fair back then you had to basically kill someone to fail.
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I passed, but to be fair back then you had to basically kill someone to fail.
So true. I was 15 and bloody useless, didn't kill anyone so I was given a little green book to go and kill someone. Mostly myself, but others got lucky.
For my test the piss taking of me was something my father would have been proud of during my "lessons". Refer to the first car thread for ways to humiliate your child whilst not teaching them to drive.
I'm trying to remember, but I think I did my test with a cop. That would be 1983. When did they stop doing it?
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