Parenting
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@taniwharugby said in Parenting:
@Godder the learner/restricted/full thing was well before 2000, I got my learners on my 15th birthday in 1989, think it had been about for a bit before then too.
Google says 1987.
So quite a few of us were just handed a full licence at 15 irrespective of crashing, causing crashes, etc during our test with a cop. They all had bad moustaches as part of their uniform too. -
Miss 12 got busted messaging on her phone at midnight on a school night. Very unfortunate she tried to fire back at her Mum with "You and Dad are on your devices until all hours!"
I don't give a shit. Mrs TA, however, seems to hold a grudge about the fact she IS on her iPad a lot and generally watches videos to fall asleep at night ... which science has said is fucking awful for you, but what do THOSE people know?
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@NTA rarely do either of us ever take our phones into our room, we dont use iPads much either and never for watching stuff in our room (we do have a TV in there though) more so since Miss 11 stood on one of them and has cracked the screen.
TR Jnr is pushing the boundaries on his phone, but I say we dont have ours in our room, so neither do you.
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@taniwharugby said in Parenting:
@NTA rarely do either of us ever take our phones into our room, we dont use iPads much either and never for watching stuff in our room (we do have a TV in there though) more so since Miss 11 stood on one of them and has cracked the screen.
TR Jnr is pushing the boundaries on his phone, but I say we dont have ours in our room, so neither do you.
Ex and I got the boy an Iphone for his 12th birthday last friday. Needless to say there's already an absolute shitload of Star Wars and Bond memes getting sent. Just totally over the top. Some of them aren't even that funny.
I suspect he'll get annoyed at the constant bombardment and block my number sooner or later.
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Miss 12 got busted messaging on her phone at midnight on a school night. Very unfortunate she tried to fire back at her Mum with "You and Dad are on your devices until all hours!"
Get her a Fern login and restrict access through the router
separately, there was a thread on parental controls. I've been using the Deco M5 - easy, but not super useful now the number of devices has dropped. Lets you bar access to devices at certain times ... doesn't cover mobile data of course. Nothing will keep teenagers away from access to stuff they want - all you do is put in a bump in the road. And - if you do manage it - you set them up to go nuts as soon as the leave home.
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Miss 10 uses a kid messenger app on the iPad. Good thing is it’s linked to my acc so she can’t add or contact anyone without me allowing it. I can also see who she has been chatting to and see pics etc.
With the popularity of House Party during lockdown she’s enjoyed the ability to video call and IM her friends and cousins etc. -
@taniwharugby said in Parenting:
@NTA rarely do either of us ever take our phones into our room, we dont use iPads much either and never for watching stuff in our room (we do have a TV in there though) more so since Miss 11 stood on one of them and has cracked the screen.
TR Jnr is pushing the boundaries on his phone, but I say we dont have ours in our room, so neither do you.
Ex and I got the boy an Iphone for his 12th birthday last friday. Needless to say there's already an absolute shitload of Star Wars and Bond memes getting sent. Just totally over the top. Some of them aren't even that funny.
I suspect he'll get annoyed at the constant bombardment and block my number sooner or later.
He’s not alone there.
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Ah man so tonight I have a snorer and then the wildling got into our bed and now I'm wide awake and contemplating whether to have a cup of tea or not. Bed time is a struggle at the moment and this comes and goes I wish I knew the reason for it, she just suddenly decides one week to hate bed then goes back to being fine with it for months on end. It's like exorcist scene tantrums from a normally very well behaved 4yo.
Electronics aren't a problem for us yet she can fully navigate my phone to find music but I manage to keep her away from it the majority of the time. -
Is there a worse part of the parenting life then bedtime?
Our 2nd was horrendous, up till she was nearly 2 every night was a struggle. Be standing in her room sssshing her to sleep and then when you think you had it you would I try and slink off without a sound. Only to hear 5 mins later her crying again. Glad those years are way behind us, now it’s the occasional nightmare or coming into our room at 2am to ask if they can go to the toilet... after standing creepily for a few minutes at our bedside ( thankfully they go to the wife’s side) -
@Virgil I find the dream giggling and singing more creepy... In the dead of night she laughs or sings a little song, it was shake it off by taylor swift one night. She also says "(her dad's name) look at this mess you've made".
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@R-L said in Parenting:
@Virgil I find the dream giggling and singing more creepy... In the dead of night she laughs or sings a little song, it was shake it off by taylor swift one night. She also says "(her dad's name) look at this mess you've made".
Ha our oldest does that too, she will start saying her sisters name and say random things like it’s her fault or she can’t play at the moment.
Kids are weird
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Miss 12 got busted messaging on her phone at midnight on a school night. Very unfortunate she tried to fire back at her Mum with "You and Dad are on your devices until all hours!"
I don't give a shit. Mrs TA, however, seems to hold a grudge about the fact she IS on her iPad a lot and generally watches videos to fall asleep at night ... which science has said is fucking awful for you, but what do THOSE people know?
Is that the equivalent of us reading until midnight with a torch under the covers back in the day?
I'm with Mrs TA in that you shouldn't always trust the science, I had bad insomnia for years, but found watching old sitcoms has me to sleep pretty much within 15 minutes. It might be a bad way to fall alseep but it's better than being awake all night. (Although, it's probably a mixture of my going to sleep pattern - which the experts always suggest - and the switching off of my brain).
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Miss 12 got busted messaging on her phone at midnight on a school night. Very unfortunate she tried to fire back at her Mum with "You and Dad are on your devices until all hours!"
I don't give a shit. Mrs TA, however, seems to hold a grudge about the fact she IS on her iPad a lot and generally watches videos to fall asleep at night ... which science has said is fucking awful for you, but what do THOSE people know?
Is that the equivalent of us reading until midnight with a torch under the covers back in the day?
I'm with Mrs TA in that you shouldn't always trust the science, I had bad insomnia for years, but found watching old sitcoms has me to sleep pretty much within 15 minutes. It might be a bad way to fall alseep but it's better than being awake all night. (Although, it's probably a mixture of my going to sleep pattern - which the experts always suggest - and the switching off of my brain).
It's the blue light from device screens that keeps you awake. iOS has options to filter that out in the evening to help combat that.
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@R-L we had a bizaare period for Miss 11 (3 or 4 years back) and she was diagnosed with 'Alice in Wonderland Syndrome'
She would come into our room, and stand there, looking wired AF, talking to us, sometimes clear, other time incoherant about seeing shapes, colours etc, you pretty much had ot wake her up, which sometimes resulted in her becoming hysterical.
Saw specialists, had scans, all brain activity normal, eventually stopped and didnt come back (also normal with the condition apparently)
We found that the episodes usually preceeded a change (end of school holidays, going somewhere) so trigger was usually anxiety/excitement.
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@taniwharugby said in Parenting:
@R-L we had a bizaare period for Miss 11 (3 or 4 years back) and she was diagnosed with 'Alice in Wonderland Syndrome'
She would come into our room, and stand there, looking wired AF, talking to us, sometimes clear, other time incoherant about seeing shapes, colours etc, you pretty much had ot wake her up, which sometimes resulted in her becoming hysterical.
Saw specialists, had scans, all brain activity normal, eventually stopped and didnt come back (also normal with the condition apparently)
We found that the episodes usually preceeded a change (end of school holidays, going somewhere) so trigger was usually anxiety/excitement.
That would have been scary to go through.
Our oldest having the odd night terror or calling out is bad enough. As a kid I used to sleep walk badly, according to the wife I still do the odd weird thing like sitting up etc... so fair to say I’ve no idea why our daughter does it to, must get it from her mother... -
Miss 12 got busted messaging on her phone at midnight on a school night. Very unfortunate she tried to fire back at her Mum with "You and Dad are on your devices until all hours!"
I don't give a shit. Mrs TA, however, seems to hold a grudge about the fact she IS on her iPad a lot and generally watches videos to fall asleep at night ... which science has said is fucking awful for you, but what do THOSE people know?
Is that the equivalent of us reading until midnight with a torch under the covers back in the day?
I'm with Mrs TA in that you shouldn't always trust the science, I had bad insomnia for years, but found watching old sitcoms has me to sleep pretty much within 15 minutes. It might be a bad way to fall alseep but it's better than being awake all night. (Although, it's probably a mixture of my going to sleep pattern - which the experts always suggest - and the switching off of my brain).
It's the blue light from device screens that keeps you awake. iOS has options to filter that out in the evening to help combat that.
I use my laptop but I don't think I've ever used the night shift mode ... I should probably do that even though it's not keeping me awake.
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eldest boy used to get those. Always between 10 and 10.30. and only if he was really tired
He would "wake up" and walk around, and talk about random shit to you, but in a hysterical way. You couldn't calm him down without "waking" him up. Then eventually he would go back to sleep, but only after he had yawned (that was the trigger for me to know he was all good).
Some of the shit he would be saying was weird. He would be asking me to help him (or not hurt him) and i would be standing right in front of him. Took me ages to work out he wasn't awake.
Next day he would have absolutely no recollection.
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@R-L said in Parenting:
contemplating whether to have a cup of tea
You spelled gin wrong. It's also far more effective than tea, and has no caffeine, along with the anti malarial that comes with tonic. It's basically a health drink.
So go and have two G and Ts and call me in the morning.
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@mariner4life yep same with Miss 11.
No recollection also, too much screen time was another trigger for her.
There were a couple of times we fully expected her head to spin around, very scary times.
Sometimes we could guide her back to bed and she would get in and stay until morning.
Edit: typing my reply on phone @Snowy got it
