Parenting
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Ahhh, the Parenting thread. I think I might spend a little time here over the next few weeks...
We are 16 days into my solo parenting stint, and so far its gone pretty well. I've definitely yelled at them, called them ungrateful, been generally grumpy. And feel like a cnt straight afterwards.
Had lots of good times too. Have to keep reminding myself that 2020 is a fucking weird year for them too. A global pandemic, empty streets, policy presence, constant conversation about the dire economy etc, and for my kids, all this away from th familiarity of their own home, friends, school and activities.
I need to be softer
The thing I hate the most is when they're mean to or unsupportable of each other. But I also know its totally natural.
Starting a road trip over 4 days to Palmy, where we have 2 weeks, then its Sydney for 14 days of hotel quarantine. This will test us!
And hold your fucking jokes about how Palmy will be worse than quarantine, you're all so bloody predictable...
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i do not envy that quarantine
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@mariner4life yea my mum always used to say 'at least you buggars know how to behave at other peoples places' to me and my brother.
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@mariner4life they seem to be putting kids into serviced apartments rather than hotel rooms at the moment so fingers crossed. Having a separate bedroom and a kitchen to cook in, and possibly even a balcony, will make a huge difference.
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@mariner4life they seem to be putting kids into serviced apartments rather than hotel rooms at the moment so fingers crossed. Having a separate bedroom and a kitchen to cook in, and possibly even a balcony, will make a huge difference.
Yeah, I just spotted some Serviced Apartments yesterday that are being used for Quarantine in Chinatown (near Railway Sq) - there's police there, but also "private" security guards.
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@mariner4life they seem to be putting kids into serviced apartments rather than hotel rooms at the moment so fingers crossed. Having a separate bedroom and a kitchen to cook in, and possibly even a balcony, will make a huge difference.
Yeah, I just spotted some Serviced Apartments yesterday that are being used for Quarantine in Chinatown (near Railway Sq) - there's police there, but also "private" security guards.
woohoo @voodoo is going to get a root
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FFS aren't teens emotional fluffybunnies?
The boy (16) has been mooning after this burd* at school so his emotional rollercoaster has been running on a mix of pure hormones and nitrous.
Anyway after a few weeks of being a grumpy little shit he opened up to his mum about how the girl likes some other dude (different school) as well. So while she's probably loving the attention, I'll bet she's trying to keep these two fuckwits at bay.
Meanwhile Mrs TA is all stressed about it which is distracting her emotionally and physically from my carnal needs even more than usual.
Yes, ultimately it is all about me. But it would be nice if people stopped fucking with my rhythm.
*she's the year above him so go lad!
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FFS aren't teens emotional fluffybunnies?
The boy (16) has been mooning after this burd* at school so his emotional rollercoaster has been running on a mix of pure hormones and nitrous.
Anyway after a few weeks of being a grumpy little shit he opened up to his mum about how the girl likes some other dude (different school) as well. So while she's probably loving the attention, I'll bet she's trying to keep these two fuckwits at bay.
Meanwhile Mrs TA is all stressed about it which is distracting her emotionally and physically from my carnal needs even more than usual.
Yes, ultimately it is all about me. But it would be nice if people stopped fucking with my rhythm.
*she's the year above him so go lad!
Sounds as though if luck goes his way, he could be getting more action than you.
Or me.
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@Catogrande he came in last night crying with relief that she still says she has feelings for him.
He was using the word "love" a bit which ii found both hilarious and cute.
Now we will see if she just felt pressured into doing it or is actually keen on him.
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@Catogrande he came in last night crying with relief that she still says she has feelings for him.
He was using the word "love" a bit which ii found both hilarious and cute.
Now we will see if she just felt pressured into doing it or is actually keen on him.
At that age boys are playing checkers and girls are playing chess. Come to think of it.......
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@Catogrande he came in last night crying with relief that she still says she has feelings for him.
He was using the word "love" a bit which ii found both hilarious and cute.
Now we will see if she just felt pressured into doing it or is actually keen on him.
At that age boys are playing checkers and girls are playing chess. Come to think of it.......
I can't even get a pawn on the board these days
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@Catogrande he came in last night crying with relief that she still says she has feelings for him.
He was using the word "love" a bit which ii found both hilarious and cute.
Now we will see if she just felt pressured into doing it or is actually keen on him.
At that age boys are playing checkers and girls are playing chess. Come to think of it.......
I can't even get a pawn on the board these days
Yes we remember, it was one of my finest moments.
Good to hear 2020 is still going well for Mrs NTA there -
@Catogrande he came in last night crying with relief that she still says she has feelings for him.
He was using the word "love" a bit which ii found both hilarious and cute.
Now we will see if she just felt pressured into doing it or is actually keen on him.
At that age boys are playing checkers and girls are playing chess. Come to think of it.......
I can't even get a pawn on the board these days
Only online mate
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If it makes anyone feel any better, I read that a child's personality/behaviours is only down to around 10% parenting.
If you have two children do you think you could parent one to be the other? Highly unlikely, a lot is genes, and a very large part is the culture/era/friends that they grow up with which you have very little control over. Most of us grew up in a different era without phones, internet and had unlimited freedom and very little supervision. That helped shape who we are.
I think the best thing you can do as a parent is be a role model. If you lose your temper, yell at your kids/spouse, don't clean up after yourself etc etc, your kids will 100% pick that up.
As an anecdote I was born in the 70's, got smacked on the arse, starting mowing lawns and doing chores as soon as I was able, had to get myself to school as mum was at work. We didn't have a lot of money, so I spent most my free time with mates in the bush, creek, bush and playing sport.
Most people who make something from nothing say they never want their kids to live in hardship like they did, but we forget the hardships we faced are what made us into the people we are today. I wouldn't change my childhood for anything and its funny, the biggest gift my mum gave me was freedom, independence, responsibility, and consequences. These didn't cost her a cent.
How you stop your kids being narcissistic little fluffybunnies is shaping as one of the hardest questions to answer I reckon.
One interesting side note is they say working mums spend more one on one time with their kids now then a stay at home mum did back when we were kids.
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@chimoaus I agree, all of us are what we are from birth. My kids' personalities are no different from when they were young, all you can hope for is to modulate the weaker parts of their personality and encourage their best ones. It is a tough balancing act between giving them more than you had and turning them into spoiled brats. Boils down to limit setting, routine and consistency right from the word go
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@Catogrande he came in last night crying with relief that she still says she has feelings for him.
He was using the word "love" a bit which ii found both hilarious and cute.
Now we will see if she just felt pressured into doing it or is actually keen on him.
At that age boys are playing checkers and girls are playing chess. Come to think of it.......
I can't even get a pawn on the board these days
Yes we remember, it was one of my finest moments.
Good to hear 2020 is still going well for Mrs NTA thererehashing the same joke? sad
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There is a lot of FOMO for kids these days. When I was at school in the 80s and early 90s it might be that some kid had fancy shoes or a nice watch but out of sight, out of mind. As long as I could go home and rattle off a box of .22 at a few coke cans, or head into the bush to burn off some energy, it was less of an issue.
Now the little bastards "flex" (that's the word they use) their possessions and experiences on social media and it is non-stop. And they've got celebrities at their fingertips just to show them how good they don't have it.
"Don't read beauty magazines - they will only make you feel ugly".
That said, the boy shares many of my flaws which is jumping into things a bit too fast. So when this little swipe at a relationship ends, it'll be nuclear in emotional terms.
For the daughter unit, everything is a fucking tragedy if she doesn't exceed her own lofty standards, but she recovers from that pretty fast.
