No kids, any regrets?
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@taniwharugby said in No kids, any regrets?:
@bayimports said in No kids, any regrets?:
My wife hates getting asked about why we made this decision, she seems to cop that more than I do. She has always felt pressure for that decision, although some not intentional it still creates anxiety.
is the same as when a young couple gets married, people always ask 'when are you having kids' as there seems a long held societal expectation that people should have kids, and if you dont, there must be something wrong
Its unfair. We have mates that we assume are trying. But we will never ask them, why make them feel shit and inadequate? If and when it happens we will be more than happy to talk about it
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@voodoo said in No kids, any regrets?:
I really don't understand smug bastards with kids who call those who choose not to have them "selfish". Where is the rulebook for life that says you have to breed? In fact, you could probably mount a much better argument that having more than 1 kid is the far more selfish option.
Its truly weird to me
This, times heaps.
In a naively logical way, particularly, there is an argument that having multiple kids is a selfish option. But fuck - you've got DNA/biological imperative driving one to breed, breed, breed.Really - anybody who "chooses" to either have kids, or to not - and get to enjoy(?) their decision either way - should to some extent feel grateful.
It's the poor fluffybunnies who get forced into either option, not of their choosing - who I feel super, super sorry for. -
@bayimports said in No kids, any regrets?:
@taniwharugby said in No kids, any regrets?:
@bayimports said in No kids, any regrets?:
My wife hates getting asked about why we made this decision, she seems to cop that more than I do. She has always felt pressure for that decision, although some not intentional it still creates anxiety.
is the same as when a young couple gets married, people always ask 'when are you having kids' as there is a societal expectation that people should have kids.
Yeah it is, as you get older it tends to keep coming even after you give a valid reason why, to the point sometimes you just make shit up, to kill the question coming again.
"My uterus was unalterably damaged in a fisting mishap" should do the trick.
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@NTA said in No kids, any regrets?:
@bayimports said in No kids, any regrets?:
@taniwharugby said in No kids, any regrets?:
@bayimports said in No kids, any regrets?:
My wife hates getting asked about why we made this decision, she seems to cop that more than I do. She has always felt pressure for that decision, although some not intentional it still creates anxiety.
is the same as when a young couple gets married, people always ask 'when are you having kids' as there is a societal expectation that people should have kids.
Yeah it is, as you get older it tends to keep coming even after you give a valid reason why, to the point sometimes you just make shit up, to kill the question coming again.
"My uterus was unalterably damaged in a fisting mishap" should do the trick.
Or "anal sex is the only way it feels right to us"
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Given how it seems people with kids do nothing but bitch and complain about them (and in the early years look absolutely exhausted and destroyed most of the time) perhaps the surprising thing is why so many people still actually want to have kids.
What I do find funny is some childless couples who spoil their pets rotten and almost treat them like kids.
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@Rancid-Schnitzel the urge to procreate is deep in our being. How else will the species endure?
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@canefan said in No kids, any regrets?:
@NTA said in No kids, any regrets?:
@bayimports said in No kids, any regrets?:
@taniwharugby said in No kids, any regrets?:
@bayimports said in No kids, any regrets?:
My wife hates getting asked about why we made this decision, she seems to cop that more than I do. She has always felt pressure for that decision, although some not intentional it still creates anxiety.
is the same as when a young couple gets married, people always ask 'when are you having kids' as there is a societal expectation that people should have kids.
Yeah it is, as you get older it tends to keep coming even after you give a valid reason why, to the point sometimes you just make shit up, to kill the question coming again.
"My uterus was unalterably damaged in a fisting mishap" should do the trick.
Or "anal sex is the only way it feels right to us"
This could be a great thread-diversion, while staying true to the thread.
Suggestions for how to stop people from asking "when are you having kids?".... -
@Kruse said in No kids, any regrets?:
@canefan said in No kids, any regrets?:
@NTA said in No kids, any regrets?:
@bayimports said in No kids, any regrets?:
@taniwharugby said in No kids, any regrets?:
@bayimports said in No kids, any regrets?:
My wife hates getting asked about why we made this decision, she seems to cop that more than I do. She has always felt pressure for that decision, although some not intentional it still creates anxiety.
is the same as when a young couple gets married, people always ask 'when are you having kids' as there is a societal expectation that people should have kids.
Yeah it is, as you get older it tends to keep coming even after you give a valid reason why, to the point sometimes you just make shit up, to kill the question coming again.
"My uterus was unalterably damaged in a fisting mishap" should do the trick.
Or "anal sex is the only way it feels right to us"
This could be a great thread-diversion, while staying true to the thread.
Suggestions for how to stop people from asking "when are you having kids?"...."we have kids...we just dont let them outside"
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@canefan said in No kids, any regrets?:
@Rancid-Schnitzel the urge to procreate is deep in our being. How else will the species endure?
Sometimes I wonder if we deserve to endure.
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@Rancid-Schnitzel said in No kids, any regrets?:
@canefan said in No kids, any regrets?:
@Rancid-Schnitzel the urge to procreate is deep in our being. How else will the species endure?
Sometimes I wonder if we deserve to endure.
Thats a line for another thread
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@canefan said in No kids, any regrets?:
@NTA said in No kids, any regrets?:
@bayimports said in No kids, any regrets?:
@taniwharugby said in No kids, any regrets?:
@bayimports said in No kids, any regrets?:
My wife hates getting asked about why we made this decision, she seems to cop that more than I do. She has always felt pressure for that decision, although some not intentional it still creates anxiety.
is the same as when a young couple gets married, people always ask 'when are you having kids' as there is a societal expectation that people should have kids.
Yeah it is, as you get older it tends to keep coming even after you give a valid reason why, to the point sometimes you just make shit up, to kill the question coming again.
"My uterus was unalterably damaged in a fisting mishap" should do the trick.
Or "anal sex is the only way it feels right to us"
"Have you heard of pegging?"
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@Kruse said in No kids, any regrets?:
@canefan said in No kids, any regrets?:
@NTA said in No kids, any regrets?:
@bayimports said in No kids, any regrets?:
@taniwharugby said in No kids, any regrets?:
@bayimports said in No kids, any regrets?:
My wife hates getting asked about why we made this decision, she seems to cop that more than I do. She has always felt pressure for that decision, although some not intentional it still creates anxiety.
is the same as when a young couple gets married, people always ask 'when are you having kids' as there is a societal expectation that people should have kids.
Yeah it is, as you get older it tends to keep coming even after you give a valid reason why, to the point sometimes you just make shit up, to kill the question coming again.
"My uterus was unalterably damaged in a fisting mishap" should do the trick.
Or "anal sex is the only way it feels right to us"
This could be a great thread-diversion, while staying true to the thread.
Suggestions for how to stop people from asking "when are you having kids?"...."if the appeal is successful"
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@NTA said in No kids, any regrets?:
@canefan said in No kids, any regrets?:
@NTA said in No kids, any regrets?:
@bayimports said in No kids, any regrets?:
@taniwharugby said in No kids, any regrets?:
@bayimports said in No kids, any regrets?:
My wife hates getting asked about why we made this decision, she seems to cop that more than I do. She has always felt pressure for that decision, although some not intentional it still creates anxiety.
is the same as when a young couple gets married, people always ask 'when are you having kids' as there is a societal expectation that people should have kids.
Yeah it is, as you get older it tends to keep coming even after you give a valid reason why, to the point sometimes you just make shit up, to kill the question coming again.
"My uterus was unalterably damaged in a fisting mishap" should do the trick.
Or "anal sex is the only way it feels right to us"
"Have you heard of pegging?"
I haven't, and I'm sure as fuck not googling it
Slight diversion, but 2 of my 3 kids have their ipads signed into my google account. Not sure why, that stuff confuses me. Anyway, what it means is that they see my emails, and all my search history. Eek.
I mean, technically I could watch something racy and delete the history straight afterwards. But I'm overrun with the concern that at the very moment I'm indulging, my son or daughter would be presenting something to their class on their device...
So no, I shan't be googling pegging or any of your other suggestions...
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@Kiwiwomble said in No kids, any regrets?:
@Kruse said in No kids, any regrets?:
@canefan said in No kids, any regrets?:
@NTA said in No kids, any regrets?:
@bayimports said in No kids, any regrets?:
@taniwharugby said in No kids, any regrets?:
@bayimports said in No kids, any regrets?:
My wife hates getting asked about why we made this decision, she seems to cop that more than I do. She has always felt pressure for that decision, although some not intentional it still creates anxiety.
is the same as when a young couple gets married, people always ask 'when are you having kids' as there is a societal expectation that people should have kids.
Yeah it is, as you get older it tends to keep coming even after you give a valid reason why, to the point sometimes you just make shit up, to kill the question coming again.
"My uterus was unalterably damaged in a fisting mishap" should do the trick.
Or "anal sex is the only way it feels right to us"
This could be a great thread-diversion, while staying true to the thread.
Suggestions for how to stop people from asking "when are you having kids?"...."we have kids...we just dont let them outside"
Otherwise known as the Fritzl defence
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I've been that guy that asked "why don't you have kids?". When I was younger and I didn't have an empathetic bone in my body.
Now I hate it when people say(behind the backs of childless couples) "Well not everyone is cut out for parenthood". I wish their parents weren't cut out for it...
Wholeness is not determined by how many sprogs you pop out. A family does not have to be 2.5 children.
My sister in law is 40 and has no children. She does what she wants when she wants and lives the life my wife and I wish we could. She occasionally regrets not starting a family but then she goes on a bender for 3 days. comes home to a full fridge, a quiet apartment, and sleeps it off without having to get up for any reason. Her reason for not having children was a lack of a partner at the time she was prepared to have them. Now she is an industry leader in her field and her life is her work. And she's happy with that.
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@Rancid-Schnitzel said in No kids, any regrets?:
Given how it seems people with kids do nothing but bitch and complain about them (and in the early years look absolutely exhausted and destroyed most of the time) perhaps the surprising thing is why so many people still actually want to have kids.
What I do find funny is some childless couples who spoil their pets rotten and almost treat them like kids.
That’s my other half and her cat ( but she’s also beyond awesome with my boys which makes life easy )
