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@JC Certainly was in this case.
It can be electrified so I'm a little surpised that she didn't have it turned on. It is appently for larger stock than poultry, but I'm still hoping for ready made fried chicken or peking duck (yes ours are called that) if I plug it in.
That would raise happiness levels considerably, not for the chickens, ducks, or wife obviously, and happy wife, happy life really is a thing even if they are trying to kill you.
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@Rapido said in Happiness Scale:
Approx 7/10 on happiness scale.
I am a relative (not extreme) introvert, and also laid back. So I don’t really push myself. So in terms of happiness from ‘achieving’, I do just enough to get by.
Had a bit of a very mild mid-life 'crisis' a few years back. My father was a high achiever who died young. I was invited to a reunion of his organization and was a bit blown away by it all. Made me reflect on that I had achieved at the same age ….. and the opportunities missed etc. The very mild outcome of that was a resolution to get out into the great outdoors while I’m still young enough.
Came to conclusion our personalities must have been very different.
Career wise I’m going good and I’m classified as a high earner, there has been a few ebbs and flows to get there though ! I can relate to what you’re saying as the old man was outstanding in a very tough field.
I say ‘was’ as he’s retired now as 76 years olds tend to be.But....my Mum says with great pride that I’m a much more hands on Dad to my boys than he was to me. Seems harsh as I have some fantastic memories with him, but she reckons I ‘do’ more with the boys. Am I making a big effort cos I don’t actually live with them full time ?
It’s extremely tough to have absolutely everything in life.
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That’s the natural way of things though, isn’t it? We want to do better for our kids than our parents did for us. As no doubt they did too. That’s not to denigrate what ones parents did, just that it is in the nature to strive for better. However we see that. -
I grew up the only child to a single mum so I have no idea how to "dad". My childhood couldn't have been more different to what my kids experience - 2 parents v 1, siblings, more money and travel, technology vs a life of nothing but sport.
So far they seem to be turning out ok, they are all kind and respectful which is the drum we beat most often.
Course we haven't quite got to the teenage years yet so have that ahead of us....
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@mariner4life said in Happiness Scale:
Upon a bit of self reflection, i think a lot of my happiness is based around an ability to let shit go. The wife hangs on to things for ages, or over thinks absolutely everything. And it affects her
My wife is similar - the stuff she even has no control over (dementia, divorces, drunken dad) is something she seems to spend an inordinate amount of brain time on. We've managed a couple of Date Nights and the conversation inevitably comes around to her Mum and then that's the end of proceedings, pretty much. Always below the surface.
I get that she worries about the kids (and I do to when I stop to think about it), but pick your battles, eh? The boy's report card wasn't shining this term and every bad grade he explained away by saying "I didn't like the subject, and I'm not doing it for my HSC". She's in a panic about his future and wants him to change to be like she remembers the HSC.
I'm of the opinion - and have told him to his face - that it is his decision and there are consequences. Up to him, but a bad HSC mark isn't the end of the world.
Having said that, I informed him that he better lift his game, given he's about to start subjects he chose for the HSC 
I will have a blow up and move on. Which can get you in trouble with the wife for not caring enough. But, if we are honest with ourselves, a lot of the shit we "hang on to" is very unimportant in the grand scheme of things
I've not mastered it yet, but am starting to become the same - particularly with work stuff. As I've mentioned elsewhere: putting in maximum effort all day is not my thing (just gets you into trouble
), but that wasn't always the case in my 20s. Once got burned by a company for whom I was sweating blood, and it made me bitter. Took me years to reach a point where I was resigned to a corporate system where good ideas are either ignored in favour of dogma or the credit was taken by others. -
@MN5 said in Happiness Scale:
It’s extremely tough to have absolutely everything in life.
I don't think that's really possible. It's about accepting the balance that's important to you at various stages of your life. If more people took time to smell the roses rather than fretting about fitting 25 hours into everyday, perhaps they'd be happier?
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@Hooroo said in Happiness Scale:
I imagine he would have listened but been uncomfortable about it. I really don’t know.
Ditto with me. Once I was 20, I was expected to have pretty much expected to just get on with life like a man.
Not too sure it was the healthiest of approaches mentally, and not one I've taken with my kids.
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@junior said in Happiness Scale:
I once told my dad I was feeling a bit anxious about my financial situation and that it was affecting my relationship. He called me a poof and told me to harden up. He then swiftly moved the conversation on to the rugby. Good times.
After the wife and I got our first house back in 2000 - and could barely afford that - my parents came to visit.
We were having a few drinks and started talking about lottery wins. I magnanimously said that if we won, we'd pay the house off, then I'd pay Mum and Dad back for the university costs they supported directly. Much poo-pooing of the idea and not to worry about it.
"So, Dad, if you won the lottery what would you give us?"
He looked puzzled. "But if I gave you a big pile of money, you wouldn't learn anything"
I was waiting for the outburst of laughter from either parent, indicating the nature of the joke, but it never came.
When I look back at some of the financial decisions they made through my earlier life, I came to realise they were both pretty shit with money, and that's why, when they argued - very rarely - it was the central topic.
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@nzzp said in Happiness Scale:
er, onlyfans?
Only person who could have filmed it was the wife because she set it up.
Probably did it in portrait too...
You're not married to @jegga 's ex are you? I reckon she's done him in.
Hmmm. Wonder what her MO is?
Surely not the old, possum, gumboots, gun, duck fence trick?
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@Godder said in Happiness Scale:
My personal rules for maintaining some semblance of happiness:
- Don't sweat the small stuff
- Don't worry about the stuff you can't control
- You don't have to keep up with the Joneses
- Don't let the bastards grind you down.
5. Masturbate as required.
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@NTA said in Happiness Scale:
@chimoaus said in Happiness Scale:
@NTA Still plenty of bargains in regional Victoria and you are never that far from Melbourne.
The downside being it is full of Victorians
Melbourne is a nice city.
Couldn't live there of course, because as soon as anyone finds I lived in Sydney for 20+ years they'll constantly be asking me the specific ways in which Melbourne is better
Easy answer "Because I moved here, you furry hipster mouthballs!"
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I learnt early on not to sweat the small stuff.
Then when I became a dad I learnt not to sweat on the small stuff.
Personal Growth, #101 -
Crying.
Top notch ferning.
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@NTA said in Happiness Scale:
Kevin Hart's latest special has a ripper of a bit about how women always have to find a fuck to give.
This is a brilliant meme, guaranteed to piss off female and male archaeologists!
On another topic, I moved to Melbourne from Sydney. Never got any hassle about that, perhaps due to my velvety Snagglepuss tones.
On a Happiness scale, I should be a 1. But hey shit happens even to us deludedly idealistic fuckers...still, why does karmic shit so seldom happen to those bastards who deserve it? I've decided karma only happens 1/20 times but positive reinforcement, Hollywood formula movies, pulpJoseph Campbell lit and schadenfreude means that is enough for most to keep plodding on..
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@nostrildamus said in Happiness Scale:
On another topic, I moved to Melbourne from Sydney. Never got any hassle about that, perhaps due to my velvety Snagglepuss tones.
I know exactly one person from Sydney in Sydney, and he couldn't tell you which street is George St, he's the worst local ever!
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