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@victor-meldrew Oh and a quick tip, if you intend to use a Baby Burco for boiling everything up in, get one without an exposed element.
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@majorrage said in Happiness Scale:
Beautiful spring evening, beers with Neighbour’s around a fire pit.
Most content I’ve felt in ages.
Fire. Meat. Beer. Happy
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@mariner4life said in Happiness Scale:
any of the ex-pats missing NZ? last couple of weeks i really have been, for i think the first time ever? I think i heard a Muttonbirds song which sort of kicked it off. Now everything. I need to stay off Stuff (for a number of reasons) but just the shots of the country make me a bit melancholy. Simple shit like generic looking NZ houses and streets, let alone landscapes.
Miss my friends (one of my best mates has a baby girl who is already 1 and i have never met). Even miss my family for god's sake.
I am guessing it's the combination of 2.5 years since i was there, and the knowledge i can't just go there if and went i want to
Funny. Mrs Boo brought this up the other day.
But frankly I'm happy here. Weather really could not be better for one, and neither of us have really close ties back home. Our house is awfully nice and we couldn't afford any sort of equivalent in NZ.
But there's always aspects of NZ I miss. The proximity of everything, the NZ bush, clear water, pohutukawas, change of seasons (it's fairly constant here) with daffodils and spring flowers .., lack of venomous and toothed creatures ...
But nah. We'll visit some time.
Anyways, Ms Boo Jr is now about to be inflicted upon the unsuspecting motor vehicle operators of Queensland, having passed her Ps. 12+ months of angst from parents (particularly Mum) teaching her all our bad habits paid off. So she happy. Just another step in sending the offspring off into the wide growed up world.
Coincidentally also starting a new, first ever job. About to contribute to the obesity epidemic by selling KFC. The personal Boo family epidemic is hoping for staff discount.
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@mn5 said in Happiness Scale:
@majorrage said in Happiness Scale:
@mariner4life it's the shift change. It was always full of shit. But now it's we are better and full of shit.
@MN5 the stuff columnists really are the worst people on earth. I'm not sure any of them have actually left NZ and have a clue how anything really works.
@Paekakboyz it'll always be home for me though mate, so do like to keep an eye on it.
Agree100%. It takes a special kind of parasite to write absolute shit and get paid fuck all for it.
Then again some of us write absolute shit on here and don’t get paid at all so who are we to judge ?
"Some"?
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@nta said in Happiness Scale:
@mariner4life said in Happiness Scale:
any of the ex-pats missing NZ?
I'm not an ex-pat and I'M fucking missing it. June Long Weekend 2020 with Redbeard just for the sake of getting over there and watching some local park rugby? Nup, fucked.
We had plans to do NZ and Fiji in the same year but that is all shit. It is as the point where I got a pop-up for the Limestone Coast in South Australia and it looks like fucking paradise.
Queensland's not bad. Try the whale watching.
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@nostrildamus said in Happiness Scale:
I've run this page through some sentiment analysis programs and the exec summary for happiness is:
get more action (don't marry a career woman or a psych major with unresolved issues), enjoy your rugby, and brew your own beer.Self help book to make a fortune out of
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@mariner4life said in Happiness Scale:
any of the ex-pats missing NZ? last couple of weeks i really have been, for i think the first time ever? I think i heard a Muttonbirds song which sort of kicked it off. Now everything. I need to stay off Stuff (for a number of reasons) but just the shots of the country make me a bit melancholy. Simple shit like generic looking NZ houses and streets, let alone landscapes.
Miss my friends (one of my best mates has a baby girl who is already 1 and i have never met). Even miss my family for god's sake.
I am guessing it's the combination of 2.5 years since i was there, and the knowledge i can't just go there if and went i want to
Apart from family and the desire to ride around in glorious scenery, not really. Auckland has changed too much (overcrowded) since I last resided there and almost all family have sold up and moved.
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@antipodean said in Happiness Scale:
@mariner4life said in Happiness Scale:
any of the ex-pats missing NZ? last couple of weeks i really have been, for i think the first time ever? I think i heard a Muttonbirds song which sort of kicked it off. Now everything. I need to stay off Stuff (for a number of reasons) but just the shots of the country make me a bit melancholy. Simple shit like generic looking NZ houses and streets, let alone landscapes.
Miss my friends (one of my best mates has a baby girl who is already 1 and i have never met). Even miss my family for god's sake.
I am guessing it's the combination of 2.5 years since i was there, and the knowledge i can't just go there if and went i want to
Apart from family and the desire to ride around in glorious scenery, not really.
That's what I miss too. Aussie just doesn't cut it.
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Not thinking about living there again (it's not an option anyway) just a decent visit and tour around
Sick of the tropical summer might have something to do with it
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@crazy-horse said in Happiness Scale:
@antipodean said in Happiness Scale:
@mariner4life said in Happiness Scale:
any of the ex-pats missing NZ? last couple of weeks i really have been, for i think the first time ever? I think i heard a Muttonbirds song which sort of kicked it off. Now everything. I need to stay off Stuff (for a number of reasons) but just the shots of the country make me a bit melancholy. Simple shit like generic looking NZ houses and streets, let alone landscapes.
Miss my friends (one of my best mates has a baby girl who is already 1 and i have never met). Even miss my family for god's sake.
I am guessing it's the combination of 2.5 years since i was there, and the knowledge i can't just go there if and went i want to
Apart from family and the desire to ride around in glorious scenery, not really.
That's what I miss too. Aussie just doesn't cut it.
Depends what you're after. We're never going to do snowcapped peaks better than NZ, that's for sure.
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@mariner4life said in Happiness Scale:
Not thinking about living there again (it's not an option anyway) just a decent visit and tour around
Sick of the tropical summer might have something to do with it
Summers are draining. Get harder every year and I am just in Brisbane. I'd hate living further north.
I miss seeing trees with no leaves in the winter.
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@crazy-horse said in Happiness Scale:
I am just in Brisbane.
@crazy-horse said in Happiness Scale:
Aussie just doesn't cut it.
I'm seeing the problem...
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@nta said in Happiness Scale:
@crazy-horse said in Happiness Scale:
@mariner4life said in Happiness Scale:
Not thinking about living there again (it's not an option anyway) just a decent visit and tour around
Sick of the tropical summer might have something to do with it
Summers are draining. Get harder every year and I am just in Brisbane. I'd hate living further north.
I miss seeing trees with no leaves in the winter.
@crazy-horse said in Happiness Scale:
Aussie just doesn't cut it.
I'm seeing the problem...
Queensland? Too late for me to move now. I am happy being miserable here.
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@booboo said in Happiness Scale:
@nta said in Happiness Scale:
@mariner4life said in Happiness Scale:
any of the ex-pats missing NZ?
I'm not an ex-pat and I'M fucking missing it. June Long Weekend 2020 with Redbeard just for the sake of getting over there and watching some local park rugby? Nup, fucked.
We had plans to do NZ and Fiji in the same year but that is all shit. It is as the point where I got a pop-up for the Limestone Coast in South Australia and it looks like fucking paradise.
Queensland's not bad. Try the whale watching.
Forster NSW has whale watching.
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@nta said in Happiness Scale:
@booboo said in Happiness Scale:
@nta said in Happiness Scale:
@mariner4life said in Happiness Scale:
any of the ex-pats missing NZ?
I'm not an ex-pat and I'M fucking missing it. June Long Weekend 2020 with Redbeard just for the sake of getting over there and watching some local park rugby? Nup, fucked.
We had plans to do NZ and Fiji in the same year but that is all shit. It is as the point where I got a pop-up for the Limestone Coast in South Australia and it looks like fucking paradise.
Queensland's not bad. Try the whale watching.
Forster NSW has whale watching.
Is that sheltered waters or open ocean?
And it's cold down your way.
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@nta said in Happiness Scale:
@booboo said in Happiness Scale:
@nta said in Happiness Scale:
@mariner4life said in Happiness Scale:
any of the ex-pats missing NZ?
I'm not an ex-pat and I'M fucking missing it. June Long Weekend 2020 with Redbeard just for the sake of getting over there and watching some local park rugby? Nup, fucked.
We had plans to do NZ and Fiji in the same year but that is all shit. It is as the point where I got a pop-up for the Limestone Coast in South Australia and it looks like fucking paradise.
Queensland's not bad. Try the whale watching.
Forster NSW has whale watching.
And the RSL there has made the worst parmy I've ever had.
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@booboo said in Happiness Scale:
@nta said in Happiness Scale:
@booboo said in Happiness Scale:
@nta said in Happiness Scale:
@mariner4life said in Happiness Scale:
any of the ex-pats missing NZ?
I'm not an ex-pat and I'M fucking missing it. June Long Weekend 2020 with Redbeard just for the sake of getting over there and watching some local park rugby? Nup, fucked.
We had plans to do NZ and Fiji in the same year but that is all shit. It is as the point where I got a pop-up for the Limestone Coast in South Australia and it looks like fucking paradise.
Queensland's not bad. Try the whale watching.
Forster NSW has whale watching.
Is that sheltered waters or open ocean?
And it's cold down your way.
A bit of both depending on time of year and conditions. Much like up your way, they come right in under the boat once your on the drift. This is a still from a phone video I took when we were there in September 2017
And it isn't cold there - it is wonderfully mild. That part of the coast has the highest number of retirees around because the temperature range is fairly solidly welded to the 20s
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@rancid-schnitzel said in Happiness Scale:
@antipodean said in Happiness Scale:
@rancid-schnitzel said in Happiness Scale:
@nta said in Happiness Scale:
@rancid-schnitzel said in Happiness Scale:
You’ve always been a grumpy bugger
Not sure if 40s is old but it certainly sometimes feels like it.I'm just jealous of all these little pricks with no responsibility and their European holiday experiences n shit.
It just astounds me how women can get so hung up on stuff and just completely block their partners out. I have a crazy stressful life as well, but I’ll always make time. What is a relationship without intimacy? A friendship? No thanks.
I think it is evolutionary - once the provider has been secured, the effort drops away. A mate of mine is up to his third wife, but comes from money so had a pre-nup in place in each case. He basically said to each one of them that there are standards and that he's not demanding, just has needs.
There is stress in everyone's life, but really think about what is important, yeah? Nobody on their deathbed will regret not spending more time at their desk.
I've impressed on both kids that while this mantra of Happyness they're getting sold is total bullshit, neither should they judge their own self worth on the word of others. If their school results aren't great, I don't actually care, while the wife goes mental because that's how she lives her life. My HSC result was well below par and I still earn as much as her. I don't kill myself at work, but know enough to make it look like I'm flat strap.
But looks like your kids are great and that’s awesome. It isn’t easy navigating the ridiculous world we now inhabit. Smart phones and social media are an absolute curse.
Daughter Unit was telling me about a girl in her year, who was always spoiled ever since they were together at Primary School - iPhone at 11, acrylic nails at 12, stacks of makeup etc.
Anyway this little cow ran off the rails a bit with her parents, who were always off travelling and leaving her with the aunt anyway, and she's been kicked out. Vapes, drinks stacks of red bull, and now there's a little bitch feud going on with her former best frenemy who is also a toxic bint. But it isn't happening face to face, oh no - these days they're making TikToks about each other
Yep. Unfortunately I know how quickly everything can be snuffed out. We only get one shot at all this. Why waste life on something that isn’t important or doesn’t give you any joy. That’s I think where women and men differ. And sex is a good example.
A friend of mine got divorced because the intimacy in his marriage died. Everything else was fine. For those who are going through the same issue I'd ask you one question: For how long are you prepared to forego that in your life?
Actually another question: How would you feel if after years your partner decides she isn't happy either and the solution for her is starting again somewhere else?
That’s the thing isn’t it. Do you hang around hoping it will all fix itself in the end or do you cut your losses and try to start again? And if you start again are you likely to find more happiness or companionship? It isn’t easy.
Common issue when you've got radical imbalance in the desire stakes.
I'm at the point where I wonder if the effort is worth it. The rejection factor is building up and TBH is probably contributes a lot to the physical issues I've been having. I was cheated on as a younger man, so I'd like to think I'm never going to do that, but life is weird and you never know when I'll be stuck at sea for 3 months with Scarlett Johannson
The real danger is if I stop trying, and she feels neglected, then ends up cheating on me (also unlikely, but could be stuck in an elevator with a shirtless Jason Momoa for 10 minutes), it'll somehow be justified because I was neglectful
The whole trope of "neglected wife takes a lover after aging husband ignores her"All this despite my efforts to try and communicate, limit any behaviour that could make me seem like a sex pest, etc.
EDIT: I've stated this before, but another solo trip to NZ (or anywhere) might help remind her that I'm worth having around. Last time it resulted in the best week of our marriage in about a decade.
And even if it doesn't: solo trip to NZ!
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