Tom Phillips - NZ hide and seek champion
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A couple of crazy rumours going around. The lesser one I believe. The custody situation will be complicated between the mother and his family.
I'm so glad my Ex and I worked out or co-parenting situation maturely. My boy is 17 and hopefully off to Uni next year.
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@mikedogz said in Tom Phillips - NZ hide and seek champion:
A couple of crazy rumours going around. The lesser one I believe. The custody situation will be complicated between the mother and his family.
I'm so glad my Ex and I worked out or co-parenting situation maturely. My boy is 17 and hopefully off to Uni next year.
Same here. But we’re the exception, not the norm at least from people I know.
Egos get in the way, so often at the expense of the kids happiness and wellbeing.
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@MN5 said in Tom Phillips - NZ hide and seek champion:
@mikedogz said in Tom Phillips - NZ hide and seek champion:
A couple of crazy rumours going around. The lesser one I believe. The custody situation will be complicated between the mother and his family.
I'm so glad my Ex and I worked out or co-parenting situation maturely. My boy is 17 and hopefully off to Uni next year.
Same here. But we’re the exception, not the norm at least from people I know.
Egos get in the way, so often at the expense of the kids happiness and wellbeing.
People are obviously angry, and the emotion is a strong one (fine line between love and hate). But it isn't cool when they use their kids as pawns to get back at each other
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@No-Quarter said in Tom Phillips - NZ hide and seek champion:
My case will obviously be very different to this, but I have felt well supported through the courts and have been very impressed overall with that side of things. They basically had the kids wellbeing as front and centre of the whole thing
Thanks for sharing that... we usually only hear about the cases where things go badly... it's good to know that sometimes, probably most times, the system does actually work.
I have never, and will never, go through it from a parent's perspective - but did go through it from the child's perspective back when I was about 9/10yo. My memory of it all was that even in the midst of an acrimonious divorce - the system worked fairly well for myself and my sister.
As to the mental health system... I sincerely hope we sort out our shit. Although it's not as bad as it could be - we definitely want to make sure it doesn't get worse. Looking at the state of affairs in the US - I have strong suspicions a lot of the homeless/drug-use/resultant-crime/etc is due to them giving up that fight a long time ago.
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We really need to invest in facilities that detain people that are unwell, and ensure there are as little abuse of that as possible while educating people to remove the stigma of that approach.
I feel that's been helped with celebrities going into rehab centres and talking about it, but we can't throw people into the community and expect good results. That's been an utter failure.
