Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz
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@Mokey said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
@canefan Not sure how having sex when you don't feel like it is 'outstanding advice'. Women - and men - are allowed to be not in the mood, and sex as a chore is what kills it.
Yeah yeah. Thanks for injecting reality into the situation
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@Mokey guess it depends on the context and mood of 'not feeling like it', sometimes it might be no matter what, you wont get in the mood, but sometimes not feeling like it could be due to factors unrelated, and then the initiation and distraction ends up changing the 'feeling' pretty quickly?
Not sure I explained that well, I know what I mean
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@canefan haha thats the thing...I'm tired, not in the mood, wife is keen, changes my mood quickly, not to mention if I say 'nah I'm good' who knows when the next offer will come along haha
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@taniwharugby said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
@canefan haha thats the thing...I'm tired, not in the mood, wife is keen, changes my mood quickly, not to mention if I say 'nah I'm good' who knows when the next offer will come along haha
We're opportunistic predators mate
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@canefan said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
@jegga said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
How long till there’s a twitter meltdown over what she said?
https://www.nzherald.co.nz/lifestyle/news/article.cfm?c_id=6&objectid=12188053
Outstanding advice for wives out there. I don't think I will forward the article to mine tho......
I've heard this before from the previous generation. Having been on both sides of 'not in the mood' in long term relationships and how destructive it can be I think it is advice actually worth taking seriously. As I think TR was trying to explain often just getting started is enough to change the 'not in the mood' dynamic. Doesn't have to be a full-on session or anything but surely most of the time you can take a little bit of time to help your partner 'scratch an itch' even if you're not up for the reciprocity. Obviously if your partner is a fluffybunny it can be taken too far but if you're in a healthy relationship why the hell not?
edit - I mean 'fluffybunny' as in the pejorative not literally
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@Rembrandt said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
@canefan said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
@jegga said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
How long till there’s a twitter meltdown over what she said?
https://www.nzherald.co.nz/lifestyle/news/article.cfm?c_id=6&objectid=12188053
Outstanding advice for wives out there. I don't think I will forward the article to mine tho......
I've heard this before from the previous generation. Having been on both sides of 'not in the mood' in long term relationships and how destructive it can be I think it is advice actually worth taking seriously. As I think TR was trying to explain often just getting started is enough to change the 'not in the mood' dynamic. Doesn't have to be a full-on session or anything but surely most of the time you can take a little bit of time to help your partner 'scratch an itch' even if you're not up for the reciprocity. Obviously if your partner is a fluffybunny it can be taken too far but if you're in a healthy relationship why the hell not?
edit - I mean 'fluffybunny' as in the pejorative not literally
Totally agree, although I never really grew out of the horny teenager stage and, unless sick or injured, will never refuse horizontal refreshment. Never a good sign if it becomes too much of an effort. Also not exactly good for the other person's self-esteem if you'd prefer to watch TV or sleep.
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@Rancid-Schnitzel said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
@Rembrandt said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
@canefan said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
@jegga said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
How long till there’s a twitter meltdown over what she said?
https://www.nzherald.co.nz/lifestyle/news/article.cfm?c_id=6&objectid=12188053
Outstanding advice for wives out there. I don't think I will forward the article to mine tho......
I've heard this before from the previous generation. Having been on both sides of 'not in the mood' in long term relationships and how destructive it can be I think it is advice actually worth taking seriously. As I think TR was trying to explain often just getting started is enough to change the 'not in the mood' dynamic. Doesn't have to be a full-on session or anything but surely most of the time you can take a little bit of time to help your partner 'scratch an itch' even if you're not up for the reciprocity. Obviously if your partner is a fluffybunny it can be taken too far but if you're in a healthy relationship why the hell not?
edit - I mean 'fluffybunny' as in the pejorative not literally
Totally agree, although I never really grew out of the horny teenager stage and, unless sick or injured, will never refuse horizontal refreshment. Never a good sign if it becomes too much of an effort. Also not exactly good for the other person's self-esteem if you'd prefer to watch TV or sleep.
Judging by another thread on this forum you are far from alone there.
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@Mokey said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
@canefan Not sure how having sex when you don't feel like it is 'outstanding advice'. Women - and men - are allowed to be not in the mood, and sex as a chore is what kills it.
Agree, however I think she has simply overstated the mantra of 'make an effort' (works both ways)
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@jegga said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
Think there might be more to this than stuff is telling us.
A couple with a 7 year track record of always paying rent on time, and leaving the house in an excellent state and hence strong references, won't find an issue with finding a suitable accommodation for 6 people to rent.
The story isn't complete.
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@No-Quarter said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
@Rancid-Schnitzel said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
@Rembrandt said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
@canefan said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
@jegga said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
How long till there’s a twitter meltdown over what she said?
https://www.nzherald.co.nz/lifestyle/news/article.cfm?c_id=6&objectid=12188053
Outstanding advice for wives out there. I don't think I will forward the article to mine tho......
I've heard this before from the previous generation. Having been on both sides of 'not in the mood' in long term relationships and how destructive it can be I think it is advice actually worth taking seriously. As I think TR was trying to explain often just getting started is enough to change the 'not in the mood' dynamic. Doesn't have to be a full-on session or anything but surely most of the time you can take a little bit of time to help your partner 'scratch an itch' even if you're not up for the reciprocity. Obviously if your partner is a fluffybunny it can be taken too far but if you're in a healthy relationship why the hell not?
edit - I mean 'fluffybunny' as in the pejorative not literally
Totally agree, although I never really grew out of the horny teenager stage and, unless sick or injured, will never refuse horizontal refreshment. Never a good sign if it becomes too much of an effort. Also not exactly good for the other person's self-esteem if you'd prefer to watch TV or sleep.
Judging by another thread on this forum you are far from alone there.
I'd take it every night if I could get it. Beats horlicks and a book
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@No-Quarter said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
@Rancid-Schnitzel said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
@Rembrandt said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
@canefan said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
@jegga said in Alternative needed from the absolute crap of stuff.co.nz:
How long till there’s a twitter meltdown over what she said?
https://www.nzherald.co.nz/lifestyle/news/article.cfm?c_id=6&objectid=12188053
Outstanding advice for wives out there. I don't think I will forward the article to mine tho......
I've heard this before from the previous generation. Having been on both sides of 'not in the mood' in long term relationships and how destructive it can be I think it is advice actually worth taking seriously. As I think TR was trying to explain often just getting started is enough to change the 'not in the mood' dynamic. Doesn't have to be a full-on session or anything but surely most of the time you can take a little bit of time to help your partner 'scratch an itch' even if you're not up for the reciprocity. Obviously if your partner is a fluffybunny it can be taken too far but if you're in a healthy relationship why the hell not?
edit - I mean 'fluffybunny' as in the pejorative not literally
Totally agree, although I never really grew out of the horny teenager stage and, unless sick or injured, will never refuse horizontal refreshment. Never a good sign if it becomes too much of an effort. Also not exactly good for the other person's self-esteem if you'd prefer to watch TV or sleep.
Judging by another thread on this forum you are far from alone there.
I don't know. Considering most of those posters are married with kids, they probably get less action than a gelded colt. It's pure desperation.
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So she’s a stalker who sent 158000 texts, on the other hand she’s got pretty big boobs . Hmm
https://www.nzherald.co.nz/lifestyle/news/article.cfm?c_id=6&objectid=12188915
