Parenting
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@No-Quarter said in Parenting:
@Paekakboyz said in Parenting:
@No-Quarter fucking eek. Two feels like heaps currently, although there is way less anxiety compared to the arrival of number 1. I hadn't considered the being outnumbered bit, but that makes perfect sense. Once they are mobile shit gets real fast!
Three boys as well so they don't lack for energy, just constant charging around and yelling etc and that's just two of them, once number three is older all hell will break loose.
TBH I love the rough and tumble with them but I think my wife is slowly but surely losing the plot as it begins to down on her that boys are 10x crazier than she ever imagined.
Neighbour has 3 girls. 11, 9 and 8. Reckons he’s on the last part of enjoying life now.
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@No-Quarter said in Parenting:
Well we've gone from 2 to 3 and it's a way, way bigger adjustment than 1 - 2. We're outnumbered now and that makes lots of things harder as one of us will always have to be watching at least two of the little nutters when we go out. Also looking at our options with cars as we are starting to feel a bit cramped, I'm tempted to get a fucking massive van so we can ride around in comfort instead of trying to cram everything into our wagon. Especially if we want to do any road trips.
Congratulations bro.
Plenty of vehicle options out there for bigger whanaus these days. Boot space is the biggest thing for us when we do the road trips.
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@ACT-Crusader said in Parenting:
@No-Quarter said in Parenting:
Well we've gone from 2 to 3 and it's a way, way bigger adjustment than 1 - 2. We're outnumbered now and that makes lots of things harder as one of us will always have to be watching at least two of the little nutters when we go out. Also looking at our options with cars as we are starting to feel a bit cramped, I'm tempted to get a fucking massive van so we can ride around in comfort instead of trying to cram everything into our wagon. Especially if we want to do any road trips.
Congratulations bro.
Plenty of vehicle options out there for bigger whanaus these days. Boot space is the biggest thing for us when we do the road trips.
Thanks mate.
Yeah boot space is key. We have a wagon with a decent boot but the back three seats aren't wide enough to fit three car seats across. It has two little pop up seats in the boot, but then you lose the boot space and it's a mission getting them belted in as you have to put the middle seats down to get into the back seats. That's why we're thinking a big ass van that we can easily load the kids into without compromising boot space.
You must have some sort of mini bus for your clan?
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@MajorRage said in Parenting:
@No-Quarter said in Parenting:
@Paekakboyz said in Parenting:
@No-Quarter fucking eek. Two feels like heaps currently, although there is way less anxiety compared to the arrival of number 1. I hadn't considered the being outnumbered bit, but that makes perfect sense. Once they are mobile shit gets real fast!
Three boys as well so they don't lack for energy, just constant charging around and yelling etc and that's just two of them, once number three is older all hell will break loose.
TBH I love the rough and tumble with them but I think my wife is slowly but surely losing the plot as it begins to down on her that boys are 10x crazier than she ever imagined.
Neighbour has 3 girls. 11, 9 and 8. Reckons he’s on the last part of enjoying life now.
You are correct. Girls much easier than boys up until a certain age, then just bloody appalling.
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@ACT-Crusader said in Parenting:
@No-Quarter said in Parenting:
Well we've gone from 2 to 3 and it's a way, way bigger adjustment than 1 - 2. We're outnumbered now and that makes lots of things harder as one of us will always have to be watching at least two of the little nutters when we go out. Also looking at our options with cars as we are starting to feel a bit cramped, I'm tempted to get a fucking massive van so we can ride around in comfort instead of trying to cram everything into our wagon. Especially if we want to do any road trips.
Congratulations bro.
Plenty of vehicle options out there for bigger whanaus these days. Boot space is the biggest thing for us when we do the road trips.
How many kids do you get in the boot?
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@ACT-Crusader said in Parenting:
@No-Quarter said in Parenting:
Well we've gone from 2 to 3 and it's a way, way bigger adjustment than 1 - 2. We're outnumbered now and that makes lots of things harder as one of us will always have to be watching at least two of the little nutters when we go out. Also looking at our options with cars as we are starting to feel a bit cramped, I'm tempted to get a fucking massive van so we can ride around in comfort instead of trying to cram everything into our wagon. Especially if we want to do any road trips.
Congratulations bro.
Plenty of vehicle options out there for bigger whanaus these days. Boot space is the biggest thing for us when we do the road trips.
How many kids do you get in the boot?
Better off asking Fred West
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So yesterday we receive a letter form Oranga Tamariki, inviting us to the the Whanau Conference with one of the boys who mugged TR Jnr.
TR Jnr and his mate are both adamant they arent interested in attending, although I have told him we should at least write a letter and I might go along and read it to the offender on his behalf.
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@taniwharugby said in Parenting:
So yesterday we receive a letter form Oranga Tamariki, inviting us to the the Whanau Conference with one of the boys who mugged TR Jnr.
TR Jnr and his mate are both adamant they arent interested in attending, although I have told him we should at least write a letter and I might go along and read it to the offender on his behalf.
Good plan, no need to the boys to see that loser again. Wouldn't hurt for him to see you, and how pissed off you are.
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@MN5 general playground advice for the boys?
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@taniwharugby said in Parenting:
So yesterday we receive a letter form Oranga Tamariki, inviting us to the the Whanau Conference with one of the boys who mugged TR Jnr.
TR Jnr and his mate are both adamant they arent interested in attending, although I have told him we should at least write a letter and I might go along and read it to the offender on his behalf.
Good plan, no need to the boys to see that loser again. Wouldn't hurt for him to see you, and how pissed off you are.
Not that it will make much difference, sounds like they are on the way to a wasted life
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@canefan well the optimist in me says there is still hope for some of these kids!
Will see if they let me read a letter from TR Jnr and my take on it and how I went looking for him after it happened, and luckily for me, I didnt find him!
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@taniwharugby good on ya bro. For what it's worth I'd give the lad another opportunity to come along. No pressure though. For the (very) limited exp I've had around youth and restorative justice that sort of face to face meeting can be powerful. These guys could well continue to be shitheads, but we can hope that they can scrounge up some empathy from the experience.
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or you could go full on Union/League lingo and tell them you hope they are guttered with themselves, and can take some learnings from this experience. If you do take that option could you rec please... Portrait of course for extra salt
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@paekakboyz said in Parenting:
@taniwharugby good on ya bro. For what it's worth I'd give the lad another opportunity to come along. No pressure though. For the (very) limited exp I've had around youth and restorative justice that sort of face to face meeting can be powerful. These guys could well continue to be shitheads, but we can hope that they can scrounge up some empathy from the experience.
I was going to say something similar, but I have absolutely no experience in this stuff.
Agree no pressure though, at the end of the day while it might benefit the thug, its not TNRJR's responsibility to help him
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@paekakboyz said in Parenting:
@MN5 general playground advice for the boys?
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@nzzp I hear ya bro!!
This last couple of weeks has been a real struggle!
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@taniwharugby said in Parenting:
@nzzp I hear ya bro!!
This last couple of weeks has been a real struggle!
cheers,
Just some amazingly entitled attitudes that will not last in this house. I'm sure I was a shit to my parents - will apologise next time I see them.Keep telling myself it's all pushing boundaries in safe environments to learn. But goddamn, the frustration levels are through the roof
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@nzzp kia kaha bro! one thing to remember is that young brains are legit wired different to us 'adults' . Doesn't make it one iota easier to deal with I'm sure (I'm at the other end wrangling a 4 and 1 year olds), but it's what I try and keep in mind when I am on the verge of losing my shit. You are talking to a mini you - or a 75% sized you, not a human with a mature brain.
I reckon we can and do remember what those years were like but life just hits different when you are a teen, and sometimes well into your 20s!
Hang in there guys
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We have an 8 year old, 2.5 year old and 3 month old, so all at very different stages. All Boys.
One thing we are very aware of is we have both worked our asses off to provide our kids with everything we never had growing up, but that by default leads to entitled attitudes and a warped view of what the real world is actually like.
We try to talk to the oldest about being grateful for what he has as lots of people are less fortunate. We don't want to make him feel bad, or develop a realy negative view of the world, but at the same time it's hard for him to really see the bigger picture. The other day he asked for a T-Rex toy and I said it costs $80, and his response was "it's ONLY $80 let's just get it!". Like Jesus when I was his age $5 seemed like a lot of money!
I imagine this gets tougher as they get into their teen years and start demanding all manner of expensive things with no sense of just how lucky they are.
