Parenting
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@paekakboyz said in Parenting:
Can someone tell me why the fuck we bother taking young kids on holiday. Change of venue and routine sends them la la, motel and hotel rooms have zero kid proofing (observation rather than complaint on that one) so you are stopping potential final destination moments constantly.
Ms 4.5 is acting up and Mr almost 2 is yelling and won't sleep. The wife and I are fucking knackered and I don't think we have the energy for a week of this shit.
I'm sure things will be fine in the morning though...right??Right?!!
It's nice to get a change of scenery. But in the end they don't appreciate it; at that age they are just happy to play in a park or on the beach somewhere. Somehow they always know to lose their shit when you least want them to
Mine are teens. All they give a shit about now is how good the wifi is.... then again, so does the wife
In two years you will yearn for this ...
Apropos to nothing ... well kind of related to the above ... tomorrow is the last first day of term for Ms Boo Jr.
18 and year 12 and about to clock out of school. 3 (maybe 4 weeks) and she hits external exams, and school is all over ... gooorne ... mid November.
Am quite emotional really. Is the end of her childhood and in the last 6 months she's been growing up far far too fast.
She's discovered intoxicating substances. Am not going to lose my shit over that ... i mean it would be somewhat hypocritical ... and she's been happy to share (maybe belatedly) some of her experiences.
WRT to boys (she does seem normally inclined in that regard despite society's current imperative to seek alternatives ... ) and stuff she seems to have a solid head on her shoulders (she shares with her Mum ... who obv tells me
) and there's nothing concerinng as Dad.Funnily enough she's rediscovered her happy self. For a couple of years she was really quite a shit. Last 6 months or so been back to her happy wee self, and a joy to be around.
Anyway, the little shits grow up far too fast. Enjoy them while they're young . Take every minute you can with them. Build sandcastles, make Lego towers, lose at Snap and running races (not too often mind), spray water pistols at each other, because they're not 4.5yo forever.
So they grizzle. So what? Film them and show it at their 16th!
Next thing you'll know is they're heading off to their Formal (I.e., Prom, Ball or whatever you call it locally) after party with multiple drunk teenage boys ( ... I'm looking at you TSF - that was you) looking like a film star while still being the 3yo you left at day care for the first time.
Am just a little sad to be be losing her to adulthood.
So you guys with bubbas , some grizzling is but a delightful inconvenience.
Well, that went fucking quick.
The last last day of term is upon us.
Tomorrow it IS officially all over.
Had a really awesome evening yesterday with a graduation ceremony. Kinda like you see on Merkan tv, with gowns, valedictorian and all.
Some of it inadvertently awesome: MBJ won a special award which blind sided all of us, and the music they walked in to touched our family really deeply. Just watch as many Disney movies on Saturday and Sunday afternoons as you can. Refer link at bottom of page. MBJ can just about recite the whole movie.
So tomorrow there's a last chapel service ... and adulthood.
And fuck knows what for us.
Anyway, she's off to become an author. Apparently. Just loves writing and creating stories and kind of by accident, maybe by serendipity, has fallen on to the exact university course that teaches all the stuff to do that. And at the Uni closest to us. So that's worked out well.
She might need some more advice from @Mokey ...
Am just off to fire the maid for not dusting properly ... dunno how you can be so sad and so proud at the same time.
She's on her way ...
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Per the Straya thread https://www.forum.thesilverfern.com/topic/3682/straya/141 I mentioned my 14yo daughter chose today - a public holiday - to break up with her bf of roughly 13 months.
After a few episodes of drama, where the guy hereafter referred to as That Skinny Dickhead (TSD) started getting a bit on the needy side, she finally made her mind up that the pros weren't outweighing the cons. TSD had been accusing her of spending too much time with her friends and not enough time with him, even tho she has made multiple efforts to hang out with him this summer holidays and he finally came over to our house to meet us only a month ago.
Part of me feels for TSD - first of all he was punching well above his weight in looks, smarts, and personality - but he also appears to have a fairly ordinary home life and some health issues that keep him skinny. Doesn't sound like his Mum is much into fixing them. On the flipside, he's not sporty, not academic, and has spent most of the holiday period staying up late on his Xbox and then waking up after noon. And hey, 14yo me would have probably done something similar... if I had anything resembling an Xbox.... and if I didn't live on a farm...
Anyway, she did it. Quite impressed there is no wailing and bullshit from her at this point, and it is a load off her mind obviously.
If I might be a Grumpy Old Man for a moment: fucked up a perfectly good public holiday.
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Per the Straya thread https://www.forum.thesilverfern.com/topic/3682/straya/141 I mentioned my 14yo daughter chose today - a public holiday - to break up with her bf of roughly 13 months.
After a few episodes of drama, where the guy hereafter referred to as That Skinny Dickhead (TSD) started getting a bit on the needy side, she finally made her mind up that the pros weren't outweighing the cons. TSD had been accusing her of spending too much time with her friends and not enough time with him, even tho she has made multiple efforts to hang out with him this summer holidays and he finally came over to our house to meet us only a month ago.
Part of me feels for TSD - first of all he was punching well above his weight in looks, smarts, and personality - but he also appears to have a fairly ordinary home life and some health issues that keep him skinny. Doesn't sound like his Mum is much into fixing them. On the flipside, he's not sporty, not academic, and has spent most of the holiday period staying up late on his Xbox and then waking up after noon. And hey, 14yo me would have probably done something similar... if I had anything resembling an Xbox.... and if I didn't live on a farm...
Anyway, she did it. Quite impressed there is no wailing and bullshit from her at this point, and it is a load off her mind obviously.
If I might be a Grumpy Old Man for a moment: fucked up a perfectly good public holiday.
Is it normal behaviour for a Dad to be involved so much in teenage daughters boys life? Or are you a massive outlier in the relationship you have with your daughter.
Serious question.
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some health issues that keep him skinny.
Are these contagious, and how does one contract them?
Avoid the devilish temptation of the chocolate biscuits in the kitchen cupboards by not buying them in the first place your fat useless piece of shit.
Best dieting advice, ever.
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@majorrage said in Parenting:
some health issues that keep him skinny.
Are these contagious, and how does one contract them?
Avoid the devilish temptation of the chocolate biscuits in the kitchen cupboards by not buying them in the first place your fat useless piece of shit.
Best dieting advice, ever.
Fried foods, chips are my main kryptonite
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@majorrage said in Parenting:
Per the Straya thread https://www.forum.thesilverfern.com/topic/3682/straya/141 I mentioned my 14yo daughter chose today - a public holiday - to break up with her bf of roughly 13 months.
After a few episodes of drama, where the guy hereafter referred to as That Skinny Dickhead (TSD) started getting a bit on the needy side, she finally made her mind up that the pros weren't outweighing the cons. TSD had been accusing her of spending too much time with her friends and not enough time with him, even tho she has made multiple efforts to hang out with him this summer holidays and he finally came over to our house to meet us only a month ago.
Part of me feels for TSD - first of all he was punching well above his weight in looks, smarts, and personality - but he also appears to have a fairly ordinary home life and some health issues that keep him skinny. Doesn't sound like his Mum is much into fixing them. On the flipside, he's not sporty, not academic, and has spent most of the holiday period staying up late on his Xbox and then waking up after noon. And hey, 14yo me would have probably done something similar... if I had anything resembling an Xbox.... and if I didn't live on a farm...
Anyway, she did it. Quite impressed there is no wailing and bullshit from her at this point, and it is a load off her mind obviously.
If I might be a Grumpy Old Man for a moment: fucked up a perfectly good public holiday.
Is it normal behaviour for a Dad to be involved so much in teenage daughters boys life? Or are you a massive outlier in the relationship you have with your daughter.
Serious question.
Each to their own. But I have family friends and even work colleagues who stood by while their kids ended up with douche bags (girls and boys) who they knew were not right for them. FF years and broken homes later, if you can prevent it why not take an active interest
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@majorrage said in Parenting:
Per the Straya thread https://www.forum.thesilverfern.com/topic/3682/straya/141 I mentioned my 14yo daughter chose today - a public holiday - to break up with her bf of roughly 13 months.
After a few episodes of drama, where the guy hereafter referred to as That Skinny Dickhead (TSD) started getting a bit on the needy side, she finally made her mind up that the pros weren't outweighing the cons. TSD had been accusing her of spending too much time with her friends and not enough time with him, even tho she has made multiple efforts to hang out with him this summer holidays and he finally came over to our house to meet us only a month ago.
Part of me feels for TSD - first of all he was punching well above his weight in looks, smarts, and personality - but he also appears to have a fairly ordinary home life and some health issues that keep him skinny. Doesn't sound like his Mum is much into fixing them. On the flipside, he's not sporty, not academic, and has spent most of the holiday period staying up late on his Xbox and then waking up after noon. And hey, 14yo me would have probably done something similar... if I had anything resembling an Xbox.... and if I didn't live on a farm...
Anyway, she did it. Quite impressed there is no wailing and bullshit from her at this point, and it is a load off her mind obviously.
If I might be a Grumpy Old Man for a moment: fucked up a perfectly good public holiday.
Is it normal behaviour for a Dad to be involved so much in teenage daughters boys life? Or are you a massive outlier in the relationship you have with your daughter.
Serious question.
Each to their own. But I have family friends and even work colleagues who stood by while their kids ended up with douche bags (girls and boys) who they knew were not right for them. FF years and broken homes later, if you can prevent it why not take an active interest
Not a criticism, it's a question. Preparing myself for Miss about to turn 8's teenage years.
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@majorrage said in Parenting:
@majorrage said in Parenting:
Per the Straya thread https://www.forum.thesilverfern.com/topic/3682/straya/141 I mentioned my 14yo daughter chose today - a public holiday - to break up with her bf of roughly 13 months.
After a few episodes of drama, where the guy hereafter referred to as That Skinny Dickhead (TSD) started getting a bit on the needy side, she finally made her mind up that the pros weren't outweighing the cons. TSD had been accusing her of spending too much time with her friends and not enough time with him, even tho she has made multiple efforts to hang out with him this summer holidays and he finally came over to our house to meet us only a month ago.
Part of me feels for TSD - first of all he was punching well above his weight in looks, smarts, and personality - but he also appears to have a fairly ordinary home life and some health issues that keep him skinny. Doesn't sound like his Mum is much into fixing them. On the flipside, he's not sporty, not academic, and has spent most of the holiday period staying up late on his Xbox and then waking up after noon. And hey, 14yo me would have probably done something similar... if I had anything resembling an Xbox.... and if I didn't live on a farm...
Anyway, she did it. Quite impressed there is no wailing and bullshit from her at this point, and it is a load off her mind obviously.
If I might be a Grumpy Old Man for a moment: fucked up a perfectly good public holiday.
Is it normal behaviour for a Dad to be involved so much in teenage daughters boys life? Or are you a massive outlier in the relationship you have with your daughter.
Serious question.
Each to their own. But I have family friends and even work colleagues who stood by while their kids ended up with douche bags (girls and boys) who they knew were not right for them. FF years and broken homes later, if you can prevent it why not take an active interest
Not a criticism, it's a question. Preparing myself for Miss about to turn 8's teenage years.
It wasn't a criticism mate, just my point of view. I don't want Miss CF to end up with some punchable face douche bag. Even worse if they have kids then split, then fuck them up. Nothing is assured, but I'm all for a little intervention for the right reasons
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Per the Straya thread https://www.forum.thesilverfern.com/topic/3682/straya/141 I mentioned my 14yo daughter chose today - a public holiday - to break up with her bf of roughly 13 months.
After a few episodes of drama, where the guy hereafter referred to as That Skinny Dickhead (TSD) started getting a bit on the needy side, she finally made her mind up that the pros weren't outweighing the cons. TSD had been accusing her of spending too much time with her friends and not enough time with him, even tho she has made multiple efforts to hang out with him this summer holidays and he finally came over to our house to meet us only a month ago.
Part of me feels for TSD - first of all he was punching well above his weight in looks, smarts, and personality - but he also appears to have a fairly ordinary home life and some health issues that keep him skinny. Doesn't sound like his Mum is much into fixing them. On the flipside, he's not sporty, not academic, and has spent most of the holiday period staying up late on his Xbox and then waking up after noon. And hey, 14yo me would have probably done something similar... if I had anything resembling an Xbox.... and if I didn't live on a farm...
Anyway, she did it. Quite impressed there is no wailing and bullshit from her at this point, and it is a load off her mind obviously.
If I might be a Grumpy Old Man for a moment: fucked up a perfectly good public holiday.
The drama probably isn't over yet. He'll make a farking Tiktok video about it or something. Or he'll commit self-harm after watching a farking Tiktok video. Social media has created a new level of demented.
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@majorrage said in Parenting:
Is it normal behaviour for a Dad to be involved so much in teenage daughters boys life? Or are you a massive outlier in the relationship you have with your daughter.
Serious question.
Dunno if it is "normal", but I have a pretty good relationship with the daughter unit.I've tried to cultivate a sense of respect between myself and the kids. The clear intent I've stated is that I am happy to listen, happy to provide advice, but that they're under no obligation to take it. Further, I promise not to dive deep into their problems and try to fix all their shit without being asked.
Unlike Mrs TA, who gives the kids the shits occasionally with her busybody attitude.
Whenever Miss 14 was moody over the ex-bf, I gave her no illusion that I wasn't going to fix it for her, and it was part of the learning curve. Just like I told the boy, who has unlocked Girlfriend Acheivement at 17, that teen pregnancies were not just about fucking his life up, but everyone around him (including my unvoiced retirement plans).
I've only met the daughter's ex-bf once face to face which I didn't mind, as they started this shit when they were 13 ffs. Seen him outside school a handful of times. Heard about his health and family issues second hand, but it is clear he's not 100%.
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the boy, having unlocked Girlfriend Acheivement at 17, that teen pregnancies were not just about fucking his life up, but everyone around him (including my unvoiced retirement plans).
On this point: I ran him through the various protection methods and recommendations. he's got an older female friend who is a good source of advice as well.
However, he used my staff loyalty card at Woolies one day, forgetting that it updates my app with alerts for "New Receipt".
The word "Durex" featured prominently in one update, for which I was equal parts amused, nervous, and appalled that the silly bastard forgot about it. Good thing his Mum doesn't have access to my receipts....
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the boy, having unlocked Girlfriend Acheivement at 17, that teen pregnancies were not just about fucking his life up, but everyone around him (including my unvoiced retirement plans).
On this point: I ran him through the various protection methods and recommendations. he's got an older female friend who is a good source of advice as well.
However, he used my staff loyalty card at Woolies one day, forgetting that it updates my app with alerts for "New Receipt".
The word "Durex" featured prominently in one update, for which I was equal parts amused, nervous, and appalled that the silly bastard forgot about it. Good thing his Mum doesn't have access to my receipts....
In the good old pre-internet days it would have said ciggies and penthouse too....
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@majorrage said in Parenting:
Per the Straya thread https://www.forum.thesilverfern.com/topic/3682/straya/141 I mentioned my 14yo daughter chose today - a public holiday - to break up with her bf of roughly 13 months.
After a few episodes of drama, where the guy hereafter referred to as That Skinny Dickhead (TSD) started getting a bit on the needy side, she finally made her mind up that the pros weren't outweighing the cons. TSD had been accusing her of spending too much time with her friends and not enough time with him, even tho she has made multiple efforts to hang out with him this summer holidays and he finally came over to our house to meet us only a month ago.
Part of me feels for TSD - first of all he was punching well above his weight in looks, smarts, and personality - but he also appears to have a fairly ordinary home life and some health issues that keep him skinny. Doesn't sound like his Mum is much into fixing them. On the flipside, he's not sporty, not academic, and has spent most of the holiday period staying up late on his Xbox and then waking up after noon. And hey, 14yo me would have probably done something similar... if I had anything resembling an Xbox.... and if I didn't live on a farm...
Anyway, she did it. Quite impressed there is no wailing and bullshit from her at this point, and it is a load off her mind obviously.
If I might be a Grumpy Old Man for a moment: fucked up a perfectly good public holiday.
Is it normal behaviour for a Dad to be involved so much in teenage daughters boys life? Or are you a massive outlier in the relationship you have with your daughter.
Serious question.
Speaking from the other end of that long tunnel, I can echo much of what @NTA and @canefan have said. You cannot and from the opinion I have formed of you, will not, stand by and see your daughter make a dreadful mistake that will likely fuck things up for her and those around her but also you cannot interfere. Guidance, advice when requested and if necessary some underhanded manipulation.
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@majorrage said in Parenting:
Not a criticism, it's a question. Preparing myself for Miss about to turn 8's teenage years.
It really depends on your family dynamic, and what the relationship is like with other siblings etc.
My wife treats the kids like kids while I started to treat them like adults at the point where they started high school.
Sure as shit, once they're in the big pool of teenage hormones, they need to adapt and become resilient at fair speed. It won't go perfectly, but the helicopter parents I see in our circle are suffering because of it.
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@catogrande said in Parenting:
and if necessary some underhanded manipulation.
I have a shovel, a chainsaw, and a working knowledge of all State Forests within an hour of my house.
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the boy, having unlocked Girlfriend Acheivement at 17, that teen pregnancies were not just about fucking his life up, but everyone around him (including my unvoiced retirement plans).
On this point: I ran him through the various protection methods and recommendations. he's got an older female friend who is a good source of advice as well.
However, he used my staff loyalty card at Woolies one day, forgetting that it updates my app with alerts for "New Receipt".
The word "Durex" featured prominently in one update, for which I was equal parts amused, nervous, and appalled that the silly bastard forgot about it. Good thing his Mum doesn't have access to my receipts....
In the good old pre-internet days it would have said ciggies and penthouse too....
Might just be me, but I still get a quick excited nervous feeling go through my stomach at the mention of the word penthouse.
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@majorrage said in Parenting:
the boy, having unlocked Girlfriend Acheivement at 17, that teen pregnancies were not just about fucking his life up, but everyone around him (including my unvoiced retirement plans).
On this point: I ran him through the various protection methods and recommendations. he's got an older female friend who is a good source of advice as well.
However, he used my staff loyalty card at Woolies one day, forgetting that it updates my app with alerts for "New Receipt".
The word "Durex" featured prominently in one update, for which I was equal parts amused, nervous, and appalled that the silly bastard forgot about it. Good thing his Mum doesn't have access to my receipts....
In the good old pre-internet days it would have said ciggies and penthouse too....
Might just be me, but I still get a quick excited nervous feeling go through my stomach at the mention of the word penthouse.
Always had a surge of nervous energy when you rocked up to the dairy to buy a men's magazine. Good old Penthouse forum, "I never believe the stories in here, but the craziest thing happened to me....."
