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@NTA said in Happiness Scale:
Cheers gents. To digress for a moment...
The kids and I had the same philosophy: the "Nonna" we knew departed years ago, effectively. What was left was just a shell of a person. Dementia fucking sucks, and it has been a long and often painful ride.
Mrs TA is of course, shattered. Despite living and breathing this for the last 5 years, and knowing the only outcome, it still hit hard. She was in the room when it happened, having spent several hours a day in the last week up there. That in itself - seeing another human die, especially your Mum - is going to fuck with you.
It'll be a slow climb out from here, but at least there is some kind of closure.
condolences mate
sounds like a very similar situation to what we went through with my grandmother earlier in the year, dementia punishes everyone, hopefully there is a light at the end of the tunnel
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@NTA said in Happiness Scale:
Cheers gents. To digress for a moment...
The kids and I had the same philosophy: the "Nonna" we knew departed years ago, effectively. What was left was just a shell of a person. Dementia fucking sucks, and it has been a long and often painful ride.
Mrs TA is of course, shattered. Despite living and breathing this for the last 5 years, and knowing the only outcome, it still hit hard. She was in the room when it happened, having spent several hours a day in the last week up there. That in itself - seeing another human die, especially your Mum - is going to fuck with you.
It'll be a slow climb out from here, but at least there is some kind of closure.
We have this to come, we think, in the next few months.
Dementia is horrible, horrible & Mrs M's mum is in the final stages, made worse by the flashes of the mother she knew peeking thru. Though part of her just hopes her mother will peacefully pass away and is more than reconciled to it, we both know it's going to hit her hard.
Your words are wise and spot on.
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Sad situation all round.
But then again I wouldn’t want it like my mates Dad some years back ( died suddenly in his 60s when he had an incident during the swimming part of a triathlon )
No drain on the family as such, just gone like that.
Is that better though ? Even if it happened later on ( 60s is way too young )
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Phone call at work today. Mrs TA's Dad found deceased at his home.
He
liveslived in housing commission about half an hour away from us and because of his history of alcoholism wasn't exactly a regular part of our lives in later years. Looks like he had a cardiac episode in the bathroom and collapsed in a heap. Mrs TA insisted on going in there to see him, and I wasn't going to let her do that by herself. Not a pretty scene.
Both her parents gone in the space of 10 weeks. Her older brother is supposed to be his primary care contact but is in Adelaide for work right now - the older brother's second born has their birthday today.
What a day. What a week!
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@NTA jesus, for whatever its worth coming from some rando on the internet....condolences mate, that is truly horrible, i hope you and Mrs TA will be ok
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@Kiwiwomble thanks. The last few months have been, as they say in the classics, "a right fluffybunny".
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Thoughts are with you
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@NTA said in Happiness Scale:
Both her parents gone in the space of 10 weeks.
That's going to be hard. Best wishes coping through it.
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So... rather than a new thread, or re-starting the "Life Changes"... I'm using this.
Been recently offered the chance of work moving me to, my option of, ....- Guadalajara (famous for Mariachi music, tequila; and has active Cartel activity. All plus-sides in my book. But... shit salary)
- North Carolina (apparently good biking in the West? But sounds boring as fuck otherwise. And... seppos.)
- Vancouver (maybe... this is probably going to be shutdown by the Org, but... "we can ask")
- Montreal (French-speaking... is it really an issue?)
- Toronto (sounds like a standard/boring big city?)
Any insights into any of those places? Opinions?
I'm thinking of accepting a role in whichever of Toronto/Montreal comes with the bigger pay (probably Toronto)... registered as a "Remote worker" - then fucking off to Vancouver anyway.
Or... just giving Montreal a go... give learning French a half-arsed attempt, and just be that fluffybunny who doesn't bother to learn the lingo. -
@Kruse said in Happiness Scale:
So... rather than a new thread, or re-starting the "Life Changes"... I'm using this.
Been recently offered the chance of work moving me to, my option of, ....- Guadalajara (famous for Mariachi music, tequila; and has active Cartel activity. All plus-sides in my book. But... shit salary)
- North Carolina (apparently good biking in the West? But sounds boring as fuck otherwise. And... seppos.)
- Vancouver (maybe... this is probably going to be shutdown by the Org, but... "we can ask")
- Montreal (French-speaking... is it really an issue?)
- Toronto (sounds like a standard/boring big city?)
Any insights into any of those places? Opinions?
I'm thinking of accepting a role in whichever of Toronto/Montreal comes with the bigger pay (probably Toronto)... registered as a "Remote worker" - then fucking off to Vancouver anyway.
Or... just giving Montreal a go... give learning French a half-arsed attempt, and just be that fluffybunny who doesn't bother to learn the lingo.Where in North Carolina?
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@MiketheSnow said in Happiness Scale:
@Kruse said in Happiness Scale:
So... rather than a new thread, or re-starting the "Life Changes"... I'm using this.
Been recently offered the chance of work moving me to, my option of, ....- Guadalajara (famous for Mariachi music, tequila; and has active Cartel activity. All plus-sides in my book. But... shit salary)
- North Carolina (apparently good biking in the West? But sounds boring as fuck otherwise. And... seppos.)
- Vancouver (maybe... this is probably going to be shutdown by the Org, but... "we can ask")
- Montreal (French-speaking... is it really an issue?)
- Toronto (sounds like a standard/boring big city?)
Any insights into any of those places? Opinions?
I'm thinking of accepting a role in whichever of Toronto/Montreal comes with the bigger pay (probably Toronto)... registered as a "Remote worker" - then fucking off to Vancouver anyway.
Or... just giving Montreal a go... give learning French a half-arsed attempt, and just be that fluffybunny who doesn't bother to learn the lingo.Where in North Carolina?
Currently - the proposition is that I'd probably have to initially move into somewhere near Raleigh... but after having been moved in, I could probably move elsewhere without too much dissent.
And I'm thinking - moving to the mountains... so that I could do the Tail of the Dragon every weekend.Edit: of course, I'm judging shit from random reviews online. The famous "Tail of the Dragon" is probably no better than Napier-Taihape, or Round-the-Coromandel, or SH43.
And... USA just looks, in general, boring as fuck. I'd be interested in spending a bit of time checking out some of it, other than what I've already seen, but the idea of living there... doesn't thrill me. Happy to hear dissenting opinions, hence the question. -
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@canefan said in Happiness Scale:
From the limited amount I know of Montreal, it sounds cool. Food will be great, French influence. But looks pretty damn cold in the Winter
Yeah - my initial thought is - food will be great, because the good French influence, but without the shit French influence.
My experience of France - good food... fucking good. Bad food (anything that's open on a Sunday) - fucking terrible.
Then realised... the "bad" end of Montreal food, is likely to be American-trash. Which... it's fucking horrifying to say - would be better than French-trash. But still trash.
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@Kruse said in Happiness Scale:
@MiketheSnow said in Happiness Scale:
@Kruse said in Happiness Scale:
So... rather than a new thread, or re-starting the "Life Changes"... I'm using this.
Been recently offered the chance of work moving me to, my option of, ....- Guadalajara (famous for Mariachi music, tequila; and has active Cartel activity. All plus-sides in my book. But... shit salary)
- North Carolina (apparently good biking in the West? But sounds boring as fuck otherwise. And... seppos.)
- Vancouver (maybe... this is probably going to be shutdown by the Org, but... "we can ask")
- Montreal (French-speaking... is it really an issue?)
- Toronto (sounds like a standard/boring big city?)
Any insights into any of those places? Opinions?
I'm thinking of accepting a role in whichever of Toronto/Montreal comes with the bigger pay (probably Toronto)... registered as a "Remote worker" - then fucking off to Vancouver anyway.
Or... just giving Montreal a go... give learning French a half-arsed attempt, and just be that fluffybunny who doesn't bother to learn the lingo.Where in North Carolina?
Currently - the proposition is that I'd probably have to initially move into somewhere near Raleigh... but after having been moved in, I could probably move elsewhere without too much dissent.
And I'm thinking - moving to the mountains... so that I could do the Tail of the Dragon every weekend.Edit: of course, I'm judging shit from random reviews online. The famous "Tail of the Dragon" is probably no better than Napier-Taihape, or Round-the-Coromandel, or SH43.
And... USA just looks, in general, boring as fuck. I'd be interested in spending a bit of time checking out some of it, other than what I've already seen, but the idea of living there... doesn't thrill me. Happy to hear dissenting opinions, hence the question.Got a mate who lives in that area
Brought his kids up there
Loves it
Great beaches nearby
Good food culture
Good links for travel around the US
I loved living in the States, albeit short term stuff
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@Kruse said in Happiness Scale:
So... rather than a new thread, or re-starting the "Life Changes"... I'm using this.
Been recently offered the chance of work moving me to, my option of, ....- Guadalajara (famous for Mariachi music, tequila; and has active Cartel activity. All plus-sides in my book. But... shit salary)
- North Carolina (apparently good biking in the West? But sounds boring as fuck otherwise. And... seppos.)
- Vancouver (maybe... this is probably going to be shutdown by the Org, but... "we can ask")
- Montreal (French-speaking... is it really an issue?)
- Toronto (sounds like a standard/boring big city?)
Any insights into any of those places? Opinions?
I'm thinking of accepting a role in whichever of Toronto/Montreal comes with the bigger pay (probably Toronto)... registered as a "Remote worker" - then fucking off to Vancouver anyway.
Or... just giving Montreal a go... give learning French a half-arsed attempt, and just be that fluffybunny who doesn't bother to learn the lingo.Depends on your circumstances. Guadalajara will be the best by a mile. Something completely different, bit of added risk means bit of added fun & I'm sure it won't take you long to meet fellow bikers and create a network of pals.
North Carolina will be exactly as you expect and you won't get surprised. Will be pretty good if you can avoid all the American douche bags that populate that part of the states.
Canada .... meh. Lovely country once your out of the prairies with a cracking lifestyle, but Toronto / Montreal will get really fuckin cold and they have a complete dickhead as a PM. I think the best way to describe Canada is this. I know loads of people who have moved there. I know zero people who have stayed there.
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