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@nta said in Happiness Scale:
@booboo said in Happiness Scale:
@nta said in Happiness Scale:
@mariner4life said in Happiness Scale:
any of the ex-pats missing NZ?
I'm not an ex-pat and I'M fucking missing it. June Long Weekend 2020 with Redbeard just for the sake of getting over there and watching some local park rugby? Nup, fucked.
We had plans to do NZ and Fiji in the same year but that is all shit. It is as the point where I got a pop-up for the Limestone Coast in South Australia and it looks like fucking paradise.
Queensland's not bad. Try the whale watching.
Forster NSW has whale watching.
Is that sheltered waters or open ocean?
And it's cold down your way.
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@nta said in Happiness Scale:
@booboo said in Happiness Scale:
@nta said in Happiness Scale:
@mariner4life said in Happiness Scale:
any of the ex-pats missing NZ?
I'm not an ex-pat and I'M fucking missing it. June Long Weekend 2020 with Redbeard just for the sake of getting over there and watching some local park rugby? Nup, fucked.
We had plans to do NZ and Fiji in the same year but that is all shit. It is as the point where I got a pop-up for the Limestone Coast in South Australia and it looks like fucking paradise.
Queensland's not bad. Try the whale watching.
Forster NSW has whale watching.
And the RSL there has made the worst parmy I've ever had.
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@booboo said in Happiness Scale:
@nta said in Happiness Scale:
@booboo said in Happiness Scale:
@nta said in Happiness Scale:
@mariner4life said in Happiness Scale:
any of the ex-pats missing NZ?
I'm not an ex-pat and I'M fucking missing it. June Long Weekend 2020 with Redbeard just for the sake of getting over there and watching some local park rugby? Nup, fucked.
We had plans to do NZ and Fiji in the same year but that is all shit. It is as the point where I got a pop-up for the Limestone Coast in South Australia and it looks like fucking paradise.
Queensland's not bad. Try the whale watching.
Forster NSW has whale watching.
Is that sheltered waters or open ocean?
And it's cold down your way.
A bit of both depending on time of year and conditions. Much like up your way, they come right in under the boat once your on the drift. This is a still from a phone video I took when we were there in September 2017
And it isn't cold there - it is wonderfully mild. That part of the coast has the highest number of retirees around because the temperature range is fairly solidly welded to the 20s
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@rancid-schnitzel said in Happiness Scale:
@antipodean said in Happiness Scale:
@rancid-schnitzel said in Happiness Scale:
@nta said in Happiness Scale:
@rancid-schnitzel said in Happiness Scale:
You’ve always been a grumpy bugger
Not sure if 40s is old but it certainly sometimes feels like it.I'm just jealous of all these little pricks with no responsibility and their European holiday experiences n shit.
It just astounds me how women can get so hung up on stuff and just completely block their partners out. I have a crazy stressful life as well, but I’ll always make time. What is a relationship without intimacy? A friendship? No thanks.
I think it is evolutionary - once the provider has been secured, the effort drops away. A mate of mine is up to his third wife, but comes from money so had a pre-nup in place in each case. He basically said to each one of them that there are standards and that he's not demanding, just has needs.
There is stress in everyone's life, but really think about what is important, yeah? Nobody on their deathbed will regret not spending more time at their desk.
I've impressed on both kids that while this mantra of Happyness they're getting sold is total bullshit, neither should they judge their own self worth on the word of others. If their school results aren't great, I don't actually care, while the wife goes mental because that's how she lives her life. My HSC result was well below par and I still earn as much as her. I don't kill myself at work, but know enough to make it look like I'm flat strap.
But looks like your kids are great and that’s awesome. It isn’t easy navigating the ridiculous world we now inhabit. Smart phones and social media are an absolute curse.
Daughter Unit was telling me about a girl in her year, who was always spoiled ever since they were together at Primary School - iPhone at 11, acrylic nails at 12, stacks of makeup etc.
Anyway this little cow ran off the rails a bit with her parents, who were always off travelling and leaving her with the aunt anyway, and she's been kicked out. Vapes, drinks stacks of red bull, and now there's a little bitch feud going on with her former best frenemy who is also a toxic bint. But it isn't happening face to face, oh no - these days they're making TikToks about each other
Yep. Unfortunately I know how quickly everything can be snuffed out. We only get one shot at all this. Why waste life on something that isn’t important or doesn’t give you any joy. That’s I think where women and men differ. And sex is a good example.
A friend of mine got divorced because the intimacy in his marriage died. Everything else was fine. For those who are going through the same issue I'd ask you one question: For how long are you prepared to forego that in your life?
Actually another question: How would you feel if after years your partner decides she isn't happy either and the solution for her is starting again somewhere else?
That’s the thing isn’t it. Do you hang around hoping it will all fix itself in the end or do you cut your losses and try to start again? And if you start again are you likely to find more happiness or companionship? It isn’t easy.
Common issue when you've got radical imbalance in the desire stakes.
I'm at the point where I wonder if the effort is worth it. The rejection factor is building up and TBH is probably contributes a lot to the physical issues I've been having. I was cheated on as a younger man, so I'd like to think I'm never going to do that, but life is weird and you never know when I'll be stuck at sea for 3 months with Scarlett Johannson
The real danger is if I stop trying, and she feels neglected, then ends up cheating on me (also unlikely, but could be stuck in an elevator with a shirtless Jason Momoa for 10 minutes), it'll somehow be justified because I was neglectful
The whole trope of "neglected wife takes a lover after aging husband ignores her"All this despite my efforts to try and communicate, limit any behaviour that could make me seem like a sex pest, etc.
EDIT: I've stated this before, but another solo trip to NZ (or anywhere) might help remind her that I'm worth having around. Last time it resulted in the best week of our marriage in about a decade.
And even if it doesn't: solo trip to NZ!
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@mariner4life said in Happiness Scale:
Not thinking about living there again (it's not an option anyway) just a decent visit and tour around
Sick of the tropical summer might have something to do with it
Sydney has decided it wants to be like Palmy and is raining like a mofo. Was lovely down in Melbourne though. I would have stayed the weekend if I didn't have a concert to go to - which was postponed due to the weather anyway.
But, I'm like you, I just want to be able to visit. I usually go twice a year, just felt weird not going back last year. I also have some land shit I need to sort out which will be easier if I'm actually over there.
Also, lots of my mates have been doing awesome holiday trips around NZ and sending me pics. That's been tough to take. What's interesting is that they seem to be going a level up from their usual style (4 /5 instead of 3 star hotels/air bnbs/high end restaurants rather than medium term) as I guess they're saving on international flights etc.
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@majorrage managed something similar the other night when I caught Alien on tv after the kids and missus had crashed out.
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@nepia said in Happiness Scale:
@mariner4life said in Happiness Scale:
Not thinking about living there again (it's not an option anyway) just a decent visit and tour around
Sick of the tropical summer might have something to do with it
Sydney has decided it wants to be like Palmy and is raining like a mofo. Was lovely down in Melbourne though. I would have stayed the weekend if I didn't have a concert to go to - which was postponed due to the weather anyway.
But, I'm like you, I just want to be able to visit. I usually go twice a year, just felt weird not going back last year. I also have some land shit I need to sort out which will be easier if I'm actually over there.
Also, lots of my mates have been doing awesome holiday trips around NZ and sending me pics. That's been tough to take. What's interesting is that they seem to be going a level up from their usual style (4 /5 instead of 3 star hotels/air bnbs/high end restaurants rather than medium term) as I guess they're saving on international flights etc.
Don’t you ever insult Sydney like that again
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@majorrage said in Happiness Scale:
Nicely oiled now and turned on the tv ... saw the opening credits to .....The Terminator.
Great evening!
Whilst we’re all pleased to see you happy and content, this is bordering on gloating.
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@mn5 said in Happiness Scale:
@nepia said in Happiness Scale:
@mariner4life said in Happiness Scale:
Not thinking about living there again (it's not an option anyway) just a decent visit and tour around
Sick of the tropical summer might have something to do with it
Sydney has decided it wants to be like Palmy and is raining like a mofo. Was lovely down in Melbourne though. I would have stayed the weekend if I didn't have a concert to go to - which was postponed due to the weather anyway.
But, I'm like you, I just want to be able to visit. I usually go twice a year, just felt weird not going back last year. I also have some land shit I need to sort out which will be easier if I'm actually over there.
Also, lots of my mates have been doing awesome holiday trips around NZ and sending me pics. That's been tough to take. What's interesting is that they seem to be going a level up from their usual style (4 /5 instead of 3 star hotels/air bnbs/high end restaurants rather than medium term) as I guess they're saving on international flights etc.
Don’t you ever insult Sydney like that again
Are in Sydney right now? The insult fits.
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@nepia said in Happiness Scale:
@mn5 said in Happiness Scale:
@nepia said in Happiness Scale:
@mariner4life said in Happiness Scale:
Not thinking about living there again (it's not an option anyway) just a decent visit and tour around
Sick of the tropical summer might have something to do with it
Sydney has decided it wants to be like Palmy and is raining like a mofo. Was lovely down in Melbourne though. I would have stayed the weekend if I didn't have a concert to go to - which was postponed due to the weather anyway.
But, I'm like you, I just want to be able to visit. I usually go twice a year, just felt weird not going back last year. I also have some land shit I need to sort out which will be easier if I'm actually over there.
Also, lots of my mates have been doing awesome holiday trips around NZ and sending me pics. That's been tough to take. What's interesting is that they seem to be going a level up from their usual style (4 /5 instead of 3 star hotels/air bnbs/high end restaurants rather than medium term) as I guess they're saving on international flights etc.
Don’t you ever insult Sydney like that again
Are in Sydney right now? The insult fits.
I refuse to believe Sydney has all of a sudden become landlocked, boring, flat, windy, rife with STDs and full of boy racing dipshits with feral haircuts overnight.
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@mn5 said in Happiness Scale:
@nepia said in Happiness Scale:
@mn5 said in Happiness Scale:
@nepia said in Happiness Scale:
@mariner4life said in Happiness Scale:
Not thinking about living there again (it's not an option anyway) just a decent visit and tour around
Sick of the tropical summer might have something to do with it
Sydney has decided it wants to be like Palmy and is raining like a mofo. Was lovely down in Melbourne though. I would have stayed the weekend if I didn't have a concert to go to - which was postponed due to the weather anyway.
But, I'm like you, I just want to be able to visit. I usually go twice a year, just felt weird not going back last year. I also have some land shit I need to sort out which will be easier if I'm actually over there.
Also, lots of my mates have been doing awesome holiday trips around NZ and sending me pics. That's been tough to take. What's interesting is that they seem to be going a level up from their usual style (4 /5 instead of 3 star hotels/air bnbs/high end restaurants rather than medium term) as I guess they're saving on international flights etc.
Don’t you ever insult Sydney like that again
Are in Sydney right now? The insult fits.
I refuse to believe Sydney has all of a sudden become landlocked, boring, flat, windy, rife with STDs and full of boy racing dipshits with feral haircuts overnight.
It's always had those ... you clearly only spent time over the Bridge back in the day.
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@mn5 said in Happiness Scale:
@nepia said in Happiness Scale:
@mn5 said in Happiness Scale:
@nepia said in Happiness Scale:
@mariner4life said in Happiness Scale:
Not thinking about living there again (it's not an option anyway) just a decent visit and tour around
Sick of the tropical summer might have something to do with it
Sydney has decided it wants to be like Palmy and is raining like a mofo. Was lovely down in Melbourne though. I would have stayed the weekend if I didn't have a concert to go to - which was postponed due to the weather anyway.
But, I'm like you, I just want to be able to visit. I usually go twice a year, just felt weird not going back last year. I also have some land shit I need to sort out which will be easier if I'm actually over there.
Also, lots of my mates have been doing awesome holiday trips around NZ and sending me pics. That's been tough to take. What's interesting is that they seem to be going a level up from their usual style (4 /5 instead of 3 star hotels/air bnbs/high end restaurants rather than medium term) as I guess they're saving on international flights etc.
Don’t you ever insult Sydney like that again
Are in Sydney right now? The insult fits.
I refuse to believe Sydney has all of a sudden become landlocked, boring, flat, windy, rife with STDs and full of boy racing dipshits with feral haircuts overnight.
Go over the Anzac bridge and head west...
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@antipodean said in Happiness Scale:
@mn5 said in Happiness Scale:
@nepia said in Happiness Scale:
@mn5 said in Happiness Scale:
@nepia said in Happiness Scale:
@mariner4life said in Happiness Scale:
Not thinking about living there again (it's not an option anyway) just a decent visit and tour around
Sick of the tropical summer might have something to do with it
Sydney has decided it wants to be like Palmy and is raining like a mofo. Was lovely down in Melbourne though. I would have stayed the weekend if I didn't have a concert to go to - which was postponed due to the weather anyway.
But, I'm like you, I just want to be able to visit. I usually go twice a year, just felt weird not going back last year. I also have some land shit I need to sort out which will be easier if I'm actually over there.
Also, lots of my mates have been doing awesome holiday trips around NZ and sending me pics. That's been tough to take. What's interesting is that they seem to be going a level up from their usual style (4 /5 instead of 3 star hotels/air bnbs/high end restaurants rather than medium term) as I guess they're saving on international flights etc.
Don’t you ever insult Sydney like that again
Are in Sydney right now? The insult fits.
I refuse to believe Sydney has all of a sudden become landlocked, boring, flat, windy, rife with STDs and full of boy racing dipshits with feral haircuts overnight.
Go over the Anzac bridge and head west...
Southwest 2.5 hours if you like cold
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@nta said in Happiness Scale:
And it isn't cold there - it is wonderfully mild.
Sounds like you'd love Finland then. That's what a Finn might say (without the superlatives, probably).
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I suspect the partner is reading these posts because Friday and the weekend were
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@rancid-schnitzel said in Happiness Scale:
I suspect the partner is reading these posts because Friday and the weekend were
In that situation, I would suggest my partner is NOT reading these posts at all. If she had, the drought would only extend...
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@nta said in Happiness Scale:
@rancid-schnitzel said in Happiness Scale:
I suspect the partner is reading these posts because Friday and the weekend were
In that situation, I would suggest my partner is NOT reading these posts at all. If she had, the drought would only extend...
Just to spite you?
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@canefan said in Happiness Scale:
@nta said in Happiness Scale:
@rancid-schnitzel said in Happiness Scale:
I suspect the partner is reading these posts because Friday and the weekend were
In that situation, I would suggest my partner is NOT reading these posts at all. If she had, the drought would only extend...
Just to spite you?
Something like that. Because how dare I think only of our marriage when work has her so busy?
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@nta said in Happiness Scale:
@canefan said in Happiness Scale:
@nta said in Happiness Scale:
@rancid-schnitzel said in Happiness Scale:
I suspect the partner is reading these posts because Friday and the weekend were
In that situation, I would suggest my partner is NOT reading these posts at all. If she had, the drought would only extend...
Just to spite you?
Something like that. Because how dare I think only of our marriage when work has her so busy?
Women are farken weird....
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