Parenting
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the boy, having unlocked Girlfriend Acheivement at 17, that teen pregnancies were not just about fucking his life up, but everyone around him (including my unvoiced retirement plans).
On this point: I ran him through the various protection methods and recommendations. he's got an older female friend who is a good source of advice as well.
However, he used my staff loyalty card at Woolies one day, forgetting that it updates my app with alerts for "New Receipt".
The word "Durex" featured prominently in one update, for which I was equal parts amused, nervous, and appalled that the silly bastard forgot about it. Good thing his Mum doesn't have access to my receipts....
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the boy, having unlocked Girlfriend Acheivement at 17, that teen pregnancies were not just about fucking his life up, but everyone around him (including my unvoiced retirement plans).
On this point: I ran him through the various protection methods and recommendations. he's got an older female friend who is a good source of advice as well.
However, he used my staff loyalty card at Woolies one day, forgetting that it updates my app with alerts for "New Receipt".
The word "Durex" featured prominently in one update, for which I was equal parts amused, nervous, and appalled that the silly bastard forgot about it. Good thing his Mum doesn't have access to my receipts....
In the good old pre-internet days it would have said ciggies and penthouse too....
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@majorrage said in Parenting:
Per the Straya thread https://www.forum.thesilverfern.com/topic/3682/straya/141 I mentioned my 14yo daughter chose today - a public holiday - to break up with her bf of roughly 13 months.
After a few episodes of drama, where the guy hereafter referred to as That Skinny Dickhead (TSD) started getting a bit on the needy side, she finally made her mind up that the pros weren't outweighing the cons. TSD had been accusing her of spending too much time with her friends and not enough time with him, even tho she has made multiple efforts to hang out with him this summer holidays and he finally came over to our house to meet us only a month ago.
Part of me feels for TSD - first of all he was punching well above his weight in looks, smarts, and personality - but he also appears to have a fairly ordinary home life and some health issues that keep him skinny. Doesn't sound like his Mum is much into fixing them. On the flipside, he's not sporty, not academic, and has spent most of the holiday period staying up late on his Xbox and then waking up after noon. And hey, 14yo me would have probably done something similar... if I had anything resembling an Xbox.... and if I didn't live on a farm...
Anyway, she did it. Quite impressed there is no wailing and bullshit from her at this point, and it is a load off her mind obviously.
If I might be a Grumpy Old Man for a moment: fucked up a perfectly good public holiday.
Is it normal behaviour for a Dad to be involved so much in teenage daughters boys life? Or are you a massive outlier in the relationship you have with your daughter.
Serious question.
Speaking from the other end of that long tunnel, I can echo much of what @NTA and @canefan have said. You cannot and from the opinion I have formed of you, will not, stand by and see your daughter make a dreadful mistake that will likely fuck things up for her and those around her but also you cannot interfere. Guidance, advice when requested and if necessary some underhanded manipulation.
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@majorrage said in Parenting:
Not a criticism, it's a question. Preparing myself for Miss about to turn 8's teenage years.
It really depends on your family dynamic, and what the relationship is like with other siblings etc.
My wife treats the kids like kids while I started to treat them like adults at the point where they started high school.
Sure as shit, once they're in the big pool of teenage hormones, they need to adapt and become resilient at fair speed. It won't go perfectly, but the helicopter parents I see in our circle are suffering because of it.
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@catogrande said in Parenting:
and if necessary some underhanded manipulation.
I have a shovel, a chainsaw, and a working knowledge of all State Forests within an hour of my house.
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the boy, having unlocked Girlfriend Acheivement at 17, that teen pregnancies were not just about fucking his life up, but everyone around him (including my unvoiced retirement plans).
On this point: I ran him through the various protection methods and recommendations. he's got an older female friend who is a good source of advice as well.
However, he used my staff loyalty card at Woolies one day, forgetting that it updates my app with alerts for "New Receipt".
The word "Durex" featured prominently in one update, for which I was equal parts amused, nervous, and appalled that the silly bastard forgot about it. Good thing his Mum doesn't have access to my receipts....
In the good old pre-internet days it would have said ciggies and penthouse too....
Might just be me, but I still get a quick excited nervous feeling go through my stomach at the mention of the word penthouse.
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@majorrage said in Parenting:
the boy, having unlocked Girlfriend Acheivement at 17, that teen pregnancies were not just about fucking his life up, but everyone around him (including my unvoiced retirement plans).
On this point: I ran him through the various protection methods and recommendations. he's got an older female friend who is a good source of advice as well.
However, he used my staff loyalty card at Woolies one day, forgetting that it updates my app with alerts for "New Receipt".
The word "Durex" featured prominently in one update, for which I was equal parts amused, nervous, and appalled that the silly bastard forgot about it. Good thing his Mum doesn't have access to my receipts....
In the good old pre-internet days it would have said ciggies and penthouse too....
Might just be me, but I still get a quick excited nervous feeling go through my stomach at the mention of the word penthouse.
Always had a surge of nervous energy when you rocked up to the dairy to buy a men's magazine. Good old Penthouse forum, "I never believe the stories in here, but the craziest thing happened to me....."
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@rancid-schnitzel said in Parenting:
The drama probably isn't over yet. He'll make a farking Tiktok video about it or something. Or he'll commit self-harm after watching a farking Tiktok video. Social media has created a new level of demented.
And if he does something like that, the daughter will be horrified.
From her post-action report at the scene of the breakup, he didn't realise how much he was hurting her, cried a bit, and they parted friends. Hopefully that means she talked him down enough to realise that the world isn't ending.
I remember being cheated on and I thought the world was going to end. At least I had alcohol to try and prove it.
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@rancid-schnitzel said in Parenting:
The drama probably isn't over yet. He'll make a farking Tiktok video about it or something. Or he'll commit self-harm after watching a farking Tiktok video. Social media has created a new level of demented.
And if he does something like that, the daughter will be horrified.
From her post-action report at the scene of the breakup, he didn't realise how much he was hurting her, cried a bit, and they parted friends. Hopefully that means she talked him down enough to realise that the world isn't ending.
I remember being cheated on and I thought the world was going to end. At least I had alcohol to try and prove it.
Social media has to suck ass for relationships these days. Kids don't really have a filter with stuff they mindlessly put out. As many a young English cricketer can attest to, that stuff is always out there
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@majorrage Black Label edition!
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@rancid-schnitzel said in Parenting:
The drama probably isn't over yet. He'll make a farking Tiktok video about it or something. Or he'll commit self-harm after watching a farking Tiktok video. Social media has created a new level of demented.
And if he does something like that, the daughter will be horrified.
From her post-action report at the scene of the breakup, he didn't realise how much he was hurting her, cried a bit, and they parted friends. Hopefully that means she talked him down enough to realise that the world isn't ending.
I remember being cheated on and I thought the world was going to end. At least I had alcohol to try and prove it.
Who knows wtf they'll do. My step daughter live streams herself making breakfast. These kids really are the canary in the coal mines and us parents have zero points of reference. This is completely uncharted territory.
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@rancid-schnitzel said in Parenting:
@rancid-schnitzel said in Parenting:
The drama probably isn't over yet. He'll make a farking Tiktok video about it or something. Or he'll commit self-harm after watching a farking Tiktok video. Social media has created a new level of demented.
And if he does something like that, the daughter will be horrified.
From her post-action report at the scene of the breakup, he didn't realise how much he was hurting her, cried a bit, and they parted friends. Hopefully that means she talked him down enough to realise that the world isn't ending.
I remember being cheated on and I thought the world was going to end. At least I had alcohol to try and prove it.
Who knows wtf they'll do. My step daughter live streams herself making breakfast. These kids really are the canary in the coal mines and us parents have zero points of reference. This is completely uncharted territory.
This generation have no concept of boundaries. I'm reminded of that girl Sophie in Dunners who posted her every thought on FB for everyone to see and read (including her narcissistic ex). Then he killed her. Sometimes it is good to keep some things to yourself
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@rancid-schnitzel said in Parenting:
@rancid-schnitzel said in Parenting:
The drama probably isn't over yet. He'll make a farking Tiktok video about it or something. Or he'll commit self-harm after watching a farking Tiktok video. Social media has created a new level of demented.
And if he does something like that, the daughter will be horrified.
From her post-action report at the scene of the breakup, he didn't realise how much he was hurting her, cried a bit, and they parted friends. Hopefully that means she talked him down enough to realise that the world isn't ending.
I remember being cheated on and I thought the world was going to end. At least I had alcohol to try and prove it.
Who knows wtf they'll do. My step daughter live streams herself making breakfast. These kids really are the canary in the coal mines and us parents have zero points of reference. This is completely uncharted territory.
This generation have no concept of boundaries. I'm reminded of that girl Sophie in Dunners who posted her every thought on FB for everyone to see and read (including her narcissistic ex). Then he killed her. Sometimes it is good to keep some things to yourself
And need instant and constant gratification. Not good.
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@majorrage you'll get plenty of practice before she is an actual teenager!
@rancid-schnitzel said in Parenting:
@rancid-schnitzel said in Parenting:
@rancid-schnitzel said in Parenting:
The drama probably isn't over yet. He'll make a farking Tiktok video about it or something. Or he'll commit self-harm after watching a farking Tiktok video. Social media has created a new level of demented.
And if he does something like that, the daughter will be horrified.
From her post-action report at the scene of the breakup, he didn't realise how much he was hurting her, cried a bit, and they parted friends. Hopefully that means she talked him down enough to realise that the world isn't ending.
I remember being cheated on and I thought the world was going to end. At least I had alcohol to try and prove it.
Who knows wtf they'll do. My step daughter live streams herself making breakfast. These kids really are the canary in the coal mines and us parents have zero points of reference. This is completely uncharted territory.
This generation have no concept of boundaries. I'm reminded of that girl Sophie in Dunners who posted her every thought on FB for everyone to see and read (including her narcissistic ex). Then he killed her. Sometimes it is good to keep some things to yourself
And need instant and constant gratification. Not good.
yeah instant, I mean god forbid they look at the message and someone doesnt reply straight away, and yet when you text the little feckers they take an age to reply.
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@taniwharugby said in Parenting:
when you text the little feckers they take an age to reply.
"I didn't see the notification"
And
"I had my phone on silent because I was doing something important!"
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@taniwharugby said in Parenting:
when you text the little feckers they take an age to reply.
"I didn't see the notification"
And
"I had my phone on silent because I was doing something important!""Send Notification Anyway" IOS override FTW.
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@taniwharugby said in Parenting:
when you text the little feckers they take an age to reply.
"I didn't see the notification"
And
"I had my phone on silent because I was doing something important!""Send Notification Anyway" IOS override FTW.
I think they're just ignoring it
Which is fine. I can ignore their requests to get a lift or whatever as well
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Polish bitches assemble. Ms 5 starts school next week. What should we expect lol? I know any change in routine will have ripples, but any advice on how it has been navigated in other households would be welcome.
Doesn't help Mr 2 is being weaned against his wishes lol. He is well and truly making his displeasure known... during the day, at 2am, 4am, sometimes we even get a 5am titty tantrum! -
@catogrande said in Parenting:
and if necessary some underhanded manipulation.
I have a shovel, a chainsaw, and a working knowledge of all State Forests within an hour of my house.
Invest in a wood chipper or get yourself some pigs. Graves in forests are too easily found.
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@crazy-horse said in Parenting:
@catogrande said in Parenting:
and if necessary some underhanded manipulation.
I have a shovel, a chainsaw, and a working knowledge of all State Forests within an hour of my house.
Invest in a wood chipper or get yourself some pigs. Graves in forests are too easily found.
No they aren't.......never mind.
