Scott Kuggeleijn sex trial
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<p>I feel very sorry for both parties in this case from what I have read. It looks like she may have felt she had no choice then felt violated while he felt that he did the right thing and when his morning advances weren't met with a 'no', then that was a 'yes'.</p>
<p>I can see how easy the situation could have developed.</p>
<p>Hard part will be how to deal with it. It seems cruel to dismiss her accusation and cruel to place a sex crime on him.</p>
<p>Poor communication can lead to some very messy situations.</p> -
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<p>I feel very sorry for both parties in this case from what I have read. It looks like she may have felt she had no choice then felt violated while he felt that he did the right thing and when his morning advances weren't met with a 'no', then that was a 'yes'.</p>
<p>I can see how easy the situation could have developed.</p>
<p>Hard part will be how to deal with it. It seems cruel to dismiss her accusation and cruel to place a sex crime on him.</p>
<p>Poor communication can lead to some very messy situations.</p>
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<p>Yeah I think when we think about sex offences, we tend to imagine the girl snatched off the street by a masked stranger but the reality is far more murky</p>
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<p>In the same vein, it seems crazy that we teach our kids so much about stranger danger or safety in public places when, statistically speaking, a person is far more likely to be sexually assaulted by someone known to them (relative, neighbour, intimate partner, friend), yet that is almost never spoken about. </p>
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<p>The extent of my sexual abuse awareness learning when I was a kid was this video, starring Rolf Harris. I sure hope it's moved on from there...</p>
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<p>He has...</p>
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<p>I feel very sorry for both parties in this case from what I have read. It looks like she may have felt she had no choice then felt violated while he felt that he did the right thing and when his morning advances weren't met with a 'no', then that was a 'yes'.</p>
<p>I can see how easy the situation could have developed.</p>
<p>Hard part will be how to deal with it. It seems cruel to dismiss her accusation and cruel to place a sex crime on him.</p>
<p>Poor communication can lead to some very messy situations.</p>
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<p>if the facts are that she was awake, sober and he believed he had consent then there is no rape. you simply can't destroy someone's life with that sort of massive stigma because you didn't say no and then regretted it afterwards, not matter how much you regret it, or how much you felt 'pressured'. </p>
<p>if she had previously said no and he had accepted that - then she was both capable of saying no, and it suggests he would have listened.</p>
<p>if anyone voluntarily goes to bed undressed with someone else, it is reasonable to expect someone may try it on - especially given previous advances.</p>
<p>if he tried again and wasn't told no. life is full of relationships that have started with one party saying no a few times at first, and then it changing to a yes. it's not like one 'no' covers future events.</p>
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<p>far too many 'if's, and who knows what the truth is really. an awful situation.</p> -
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<p>Good to see an article explaining exactly what instructions were given to the jury</p>
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<p><a data-ipb='nomediaparse' href='http://www.odt.co.nz/news/national/392336/jury-deliberating-kuggeleijn-rape-case'>http://www.odt.co.nz/news/national/392336/jury-deliberating-kuggeleijn-rape-case</a></p>
<p></p><p></p><blockquote class="ipsBlockquote">The judge gave the jury four questions to consider. The first revolved around whether sex actually took place, followed by whether the complainant consented to it.
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<div>If they believed she wasn't consenting, the jury had to consider whether the Crown has proven that Kuggeleijn didn't believe she was consenting.</div>
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<div>If they agreed with that, they had to decide if Kuggeleijn had reasonable grounds to believe that she was consenting.</div>
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<p>Connell suggested the jury considered Kuggeleijn's evidence first. If they accept what he says, they should find him not guilty. Or, if they were unsure, then they must also find him not guilty. But even if they disbelieved Kuggeleijn's evidence they would then need to assess the Crown's submissions in regards to the complainant saying "no".</p></blockquote> -
<p>Does anyone remember exactly what happened when Roger Randle got in trouble overseas ? from memory it all got thrown out but the mud still stuck and may have contributed to him having a much briefer AB career than I personally think he deserved.</p>
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<p>I remember hearing he may have been the fall guy for more famous teammates ? Obviously if this thread is naming names and potentially a bit of a prickly subject mods can feel free to delete it but if not I'd love to know more about what happened.</p> -
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<p>Does anyone remember exactly what happened when Roger Randle got in trouble overseas ? from memory it all got thrown out but the mud still stuck and may have contributed to him having a much briefer AB career than I personally think he deserved.</p>
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<p>I remember hearing he may have been the fall guy for more famous teammates ? Obviously if this thread is naming names and potentially a bit of a prickly subject mods can feel free to delete it but if not I'd love to know more about what happened.</p>
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<p>IIRC there were several players in the room, there may have been some sharing going on but Randle took the fall (and probably wasn't actually involved in the acts)</p> -
<p>I'd not be willing to take the fall for something like that if it wasn't me, even if it were to jeopardise my career in NZ.</p>
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I'd not be willing to take the fall for something like that if it wasn't me, even if it were to jeopardise my career in NZ.</p></blockquote>Absolutely. I don't remember him being quite as good again but my memory might be wrong -
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Good to see an article explaining exactly what instructions were given to the jury<br><br><a class="bbc_url" href="http://www.odt.co.nz/news/national/392336/jury-deliberating-kuggeleijn-rape-case">http://www.odt.co.nz/news/national/392336/jury-deliberating-kuggeleijn-rape-case</a></p></blockquote>You'd have to think that's geared towards his side of the story then. But when you consider those text messages in conjunction with it all. Messy one. I'm glad I've never served on a jury. I imagine it'd be incredibly frustrating. <br><br>
I ran a trial a few years back that had a quite famous cricketer on the jury who struggled to keep his eyes open the whole time, (along with about three other members of The jury who weren't able to get out of jury service). The defendant was found not guilty of a quite bad assault that I thought was cut and dry. Bumped into a juror a few months later who couldn't apologise enough and said that a couple of dominant personalities has overrun everyone else and that he regretted the verdict they gave . -
<p>I got selected for the first Jury Service I was called to (I was 19) thing was it was a dude my age so I was supposed to empathise with him or something I guess for his GBH on an old fella walking home form town one night.</p>
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<p>Absolutely. I don't remember him being quite as good again but my memory might be wrong</p>
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<p>Well yeah tough to get in ahead of Jonah, Goldie and Tana I guess but he was still extremely good.</p> -
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<p>Fuck me MN5, there is no thread you can't turn to 90s.</p>
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I thought Randle was completely exonerated and the whole thing was shown to be a sham.<br><br>
The worst one that slipped through the net was SA fast bowler Ntini. The judge convicted him and mentioned his version of events to be ridiculous. He was convicted and sentenced then 9 months later it disappeared and he became the black face of SA cricket.<br><br>
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<p>I thought Randle was completely exonerated and the whole thing was shown to be a sham.<br><br>
The worst one that slipped through the net was SA fast bowler Ntini. The judge convicted him and mentioned his version of events to be ridiculous. He was convicted and sentenced then 9 months later it disappeared and he became the black face of SA cricket.<br><br>
A simple ntini rape search on Google explains it all</p>
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<p>mud sticks and all...and I guess that is the issue isnt it, you get accused, named and shamed, then turns out you were innocent (or the complaint withdrawn - some would sy conveniently) doesnt stop the whispers, more so in todays digital age</p> -
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<p>I thought Randle was completely exonerated and the whole thing was shown to be a sham.<br><br>
The worst one that slipped through the net was SA fast bowler Ntini. The judge convicted him and mentioned his version of events to be ridiculous. He was convicted and sentenced then 9 months later it disappeared and he became the black face of SA cricket.<br><br>
A simple ntini rape search on Google explains it all</p>
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<p>I remember watching a BCs/Proteas ODI with a South African mate of mine years ago over a braai and few beers. We batted and Pollock got the first wicket and he was ecstatic but when Ntini got one he cursed him for being a "fucken kaffir rapist".....</p>
