The Silver Fern

Don't have kids because I can't. Insides were decimated by severe endometriosis. Three surgeons tried their best to cut 'n' scrape 'n' laser, but nope. Two days a month I'm incapacitated by pain (equivalent to late stage labour) the cramps seize up my gut, lower back, hips, and sciatic nerve. So that all sucks. Sibling has 4 kids with easy breezy pregnancies all.
Some days I'm glad I don't, especially when my anxiety disorder is bad. I look at others stressing about kid stuff and don't think I would cope. But other days it bites quite hard. And yes, when you are a woman, people are complete fuckwits if you don't have kids. The interrogation can be really cruel, and assumptions made.
The superiority of some parents, the shit like oh, you are selfish, or only a mother really knows how to love etc etc is hard to take. Honestly I wish people wouldn't ask why if you don't have kids. Like literally it's none of your fucking business. If it's a medical thing, it's so painful to talk about. Ditto for mental health or financial.
It's actually shocking how there is still so much stigma if a woman is childless. Oh, she is cold or dried up or other fucking shit. Like you're only worth something if you have a uterus that works, and God forbid if you don't feel the desire to breed. If we could reach a point where its like have kids if you want/not having them is equally cool, no explanation required, yay.
Oh, and don't wish for the whole single and ready to mingle way. There is nothing worth taking home nowadays. Not that you'd want to in a pandemic, amirite.

A very long post to say sometimes life just doesn't work out how you hoped. Shrug. That's the way it goes.

1. Folau is a twat.
2. Even now, there are still way too many who think being LGBTQ is a lifestyle. For some, coming out is fine. For others, it's violence and ostracism, some have been killed over it. It can often depend where you live, the beliefs of family/friends etc. Religious fuckwits have caused immeasurable harm to LGBTQ people. Words matter. They fester in hearts and minds, and sometimes provoke action.

It's fine for those who are utterly unaffected to say oh he's just being a piston wristed gibbon, ignore, but it's a bit different when you are in the LGBTQ community and get the slurs and discrimination etc from religious fuckfaces on a regular basis.

What a game, eh.
While there was little appreciation for my nerves, that was vintage Bledisloe, and I'm glad we got up in the end to honour the mighty Tree.
Shocking start by the ABs, Wallabies were crisp in passing, tight on defence, and pounced on mistakes. Genia clearly took a sip from the fountain of youth, great game.
Ioane fantastic, gees he is quick, always making metres. Our scrum was also mighty tonight. DMac, well he is brave, and he makes some good sniping runs, but bloody hell he needs to sort out his passing. Sometimes it is downright awful. I'm nervous about these continual head knocks for Crotty and Cane. Not good. SBW had a game to forget. ALB much better from last week.
Cheika is a dick. Dude, you lost because your kicker couldn't kick for shit. And I wouldn't be shitting on the refs, because your team got several favours out there in terms of 50/50 disallowed tries, and another than could have easily got one of your men a yellow.

I wish they would both fuck off.

@Kirwan said in Aaron Smith naughty boy?:

Watching the cringeworthy statement from Smith where he was quite upset (seriously, why did they make him do that?), it reminded me of another world class player that decided to leave NZ because it was too much of a fishbowl: Carl Hayman.

I hope we haven't chased away the best halfback we've had since Bachop because of some click hungry hacks and a couple of perverts who decided to record this incident.

That tearful apology was just awful. For him, for the AB's, for his friends and family. This is so out of control. The only people he owed an apology to was his girlfriend and the NZRU for being a douchebag when on duty. Everyone else can fuck off. Jesus, the lynch mob have got their pound of flesh for this, it makes me want to punch the recording couple in the face for being the catalyst that inflicted this bullshit on the country.

I don't ever want to see Warren Gatland anywhere near the All Black head coach job.

@NTA said in Re: Movie review thread...:

Let's see:

1. White
2. Into porn
3. Loves getting hold of a pair of tits

Yep. @Mokey is a bloody misogynist.

You forgot loves rugby, you fucking PUSSY.

Does Gatland ever consider that the reason he gets criticised is because he is such a whiny little bitch? His bleating is almost Woodward-esque.

@jegga What happened to Grace was absolutely dreadful and I'm heartbroken for her family and friends, but the public grief overload and vigils, articles, Prime Ministerial apology on behalf of the nation for one tourist are absolutely OTT.

If the PM wants to sob about something, how about our appalling domestic violence or suicide rates.

@jegga You have inflicted this knowledge on me without consent, so fuck you. I mean what kind of monster tags others with Jay Jay Feeney articles???

God, I wish this story would just curl up and die. Even mentioning it in the same breath as the Wellington story and and the Chiefs story is revolting - it is not even in the same stratosphere in terms of seriousness.

And yes, the pervert couple better hope they have no skeletons. Because the thing is, Mr. and Mrs. Moral Highground, that if you were truly outraged, you would have dashed out and fetched an airport official. But instead you stayed in the bathroom, WITH SMALL CHILD, and recorded two people having sex in a toilet. That is not outrage. It is voyeurism or worse, preparation for blackmail.

Poor Aussies. It must suck when you've had 6 more Prime Ministers than Bledisloe Cups in the past 15 years.

@Milk said in Aaron Smith naughty boy?:

http://www.stuff.co.nz/sport/rugby/85264885/aaron-smith-witnesss-full-apology

"We have had a lot of (negative) attention this past week which is very, very scary...

"You can probably guess how much of a safety threat now it would be if we were identified and this is probably the issue we did not consider at the time. We did not consider the public backlash against us....

"Yes, I regret reporting it because it has had a much more serious outcome than expected.

"[My wife] does not, as she thinks that he and the rugby union needed to be accountable.

"She said we shouldn't have had to wait like peasants to use the baby's room so that an over-paid rugby player could entertain female company. She is still fuming.

I feel like this says more than anything else. And yes, couple, you are perverts. No one who records a pair of strangers having sex in a bathroom is doing it for reasons of outrage. As for trying to deflect onto the woman Smith was with by offering details, this just makes you suck even more as humans. Fuck you both. At any point here, you could have let this story die. BUT YOU KEEP MAKING MORE COMMENTS. I hope you are outed. You made your bed, now lie in it.

Now that was a test match. Tension and pressure and outstanding bowling and great batting, screamer catches and dropped chances...

...and no cheating.

@hooroo Yup. Black dog is a stupid term. More like a heavy black cloud that cuts out light and hope and fucks your head up.

And just like after every celebrity suicide, you have these stupid twits chirping on social media to 'ask for help'. For a high functioning professional that is nigh on impossible, because they are in a position where the chance of mockery and misunderstanding is high - you're rich and attractive and on tv, what have you got to be sad about? So they carry on until they crack.
It's why I have so much respect for SJK speaking out like he has. Depression doesn't give a fuck what you do or how old you are or what you look like or your bank balance.

@sammyc As someone whose name gets misspelled all the time - go fuck yourself.

@mrfc said in Chiefs 2019:

Apparantly Foster wants him as an assistant if Foster is given the ab's job

Oh goody. Foster and Cooper. If we can nab Todd Blackadder back, we'll have a true axis of fucking average.

She could have expressed her sadness at the act and reiterated how safe NZ is on the whole for tourists and left it at that.

But making us all shamed and responsible for one man's actions is bloody ridiculous. Ditto for implying the welcome of the whole country is tarnished by this act. Millions of people come here every year and have the best time, and will continue to do so. Because it is relatively safe. But as in every country, there will always be sick fucks who do terrible things. And the rest of us sure as hell aren't responsible or at fault for that.

I hope Clarkes performance today locks him into starting rather than Bridge. No comparison there.

Noelene Taurua is a goddamned fucking coaching legend. NNZ should be kissing her boots right now, after what she achieved in less than a year. Losses to minnow teams, bundled out of the CG, super charged division in team, confidence gone........to world champions.